| First off, I'll give you the background, and then i'll tell you guys what my technique is to diverting the 'lets be friends conversation' back into dating territory.
I met a very hot girl at a bar. I used my standard opener and some palm reading to create attraction. Within 5-10min, I had the number and we went to dance...
The next day, I didn't call or text. So on the 2nd day, she text me "did you forget about me already?!?! Too many girls on your plate!!". She later admitted that that's one of her standard games she plays on guys from the bar (pretend to be venerable so that the guy opens up and feels like he can trust her).
So I called her that day and she eagerly agreed to meet up that night.. We talked for several hours, held hands, cuddled, with light kisses.... She struck me as your typical hot girl that doesn't trust men anymore (most her ex's cheated on her, and most guys want her only for her body)...
she concluded at the end of the night "you are not like most men out there.. you really are a genuine great guy". The truth is that I only treated her that way early on b/c she gave that vibe with those txt msgs.
The next time we meet up, she begins to explain how "she can land any guy she wants with her looks. All she needs to do is play a mind game and he's in the bag."
"BUT WITH ME, IM TOO GENUINE SO SHE WONT PLAY ANY MORE GAMES AND WANTS TO SIMPLY BE FRIENDS!!!!!".
SOLUTION: I instantly turned cold on her.. I lost that glow in my face and became distant/disinterested. The trick is to genuinely decide that you hate her and don't care to look/talk to her anymore....
She asks in a worried tone: "why aren't you talking"
Me: "because I cant trust you"
Her: "you'll be friends with me wont you?"
Me: "No, I wont. I started getting to know you nice and slow (without investing my emotions). You mislead me to think that you are willing to open up and connect, but that was a trick... Now, you want me to turn off my connection and be friends - I don't need friends like that".
I hit a nerve!
Me (cont.): "listen, a friend is someone who you meet through friends, add to facebook, chat once a week for a while... and then have her set you up with your friends. We met at a bar, you tricked me into opening up to you (by showing you are venerable), and now you "want to be friends. - I'll pass."
She instantly went back to caressing/cuddling etc.. and the date was back on.... her friends bit backfired!
HERE IS THE REASONING:
A real relationship requires two things 1) emotional connection 2) physical connection. Men are notorious for being physical even if they aren't interested emotionally. WOMEN DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE. They try to land a man emotionally without giving him the physical...
WHY INVEST PHYSICALLY IN A MAN IF HE'S STUPID ENOUGH TO SETTLE FOR JUST AN EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT????
So the same way women resist physical connection early on to weed out the 'players', we must resist investing emotionally with girls who aren't willing to invest physically!!!!
this girl tricked me into opening up to her (emotionally) too soon. She thought: "I'm scared of investing physically b/c most men in my past cheat". "If this guy is so easy, why not label him a friend and never have to invest physically ever!"
AKA: "HAVE MY CAKE AND EAT IT TO".
by turning cold on her, I'm saying "listen sweety, if you wont put in an effort, neither will I".... Once she has the fear of loosing me altogether, that RE-CREATES THE CHALLENGE SHE WAS MISSING and she abandons the friends idea altogether".
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