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I met a girl at this really cool bar down town last night. She seemed pretty cool, from the short conversation we had before the band started deafening us. She's into astrology (which I think is bunk, but what ever) so I said I'm Sagittarius, what's that tell you about me? She said that we would get along together really well, and I think I caught her looking a few times through the night. After the bands where done I asked her for her number, she kinda hesitated, so I said "we can see if you're whole astrology thing works out" She laughed and goes I don't give that out to people I just met. I said something like well if I see you here next week we won't have just met, said good by and left.
I'm thinking she wasn't very interested, but not completely dis-interested either. She hesitated a little before saying no.
Do you think she really has a policy of not giving it out, or just meant I don't give it out to you?
I think she meant this:
"I don't give that out to people I just met."
Would you give your number to a guy you just met and talked to for 3 minutes? Trust takes a lil' time.
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Thanks guys. That makes sense, and you're right about me. I've been pretty sheltered growing up, and just moved out of the parents. So I'm opening up, becoming less shy and talking to more people. But I have a long way to go. I don't think I came of as un-trust worthy, just didn't really get to talk much. Maybe I'll see her again, maybe not. Either way, I had a fun night, talked to a cute chick, and have no regrets.
Sean I wouln't give out my number to a guy I talked to for like three minutes. But that's because I'm not really into guys
But jokes aside, it really is the same.
Say you're at a bar, and you're digging the band. The dude next to you says, "this band is great, eh?" You start talking. You've got things in common. He seems like a good guy. But after 5 minutes, you've got to go, and he says, "we should hang out, dude. What's your number?"
You know he's not hitting on you, and this really is just a friendly thing. But... you don't know this cat, and the fact that he's asking to hang out already makes him suspect.
Get it? It's exactly the same with girls. If you don't have much time, you have to lay it on the line totally so she knows the deal. Something like, "I know this isn't the way it's supposed to work, and I wish we got more time to talk, but there's something about you I like, and I want to know more. If we had another hour, I'd love to sit and talk, but since we don't, I gotta ask for your number or I'd hate myself for letting the chance just pass by."
And if you have the time, take it. Get to know her, and even more importantly, let her get to know YOU. You don't have to impress her... just let her see that you are a real man, and someone who might be worth getting to know better.
And sexier.
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