PUAs i need your help
After i closed the office collegue, i called her at work cos i didnt have her cell. I was super-quick and told her she was crazy cos she didnt ask for my number the other night, she laughed and i told her to get a pen and write mine down, she obliged then gave me her number. I called her after work, but she could not speak (it was genuine). She said she would call back but instead texted something boring.
The next day i initiated some more texting, and organised a Day 2, i made it sound intriguing and fun, i could tell she was pumped for it but then she msgd me saying she doesnt think its a good idea (cos we work together and she thinks i still have a thing with my ex - untrue) i told her its jus fun so she said she was up for it.
Then the day came and she texted me again saying she cant come cos she has to do something wit her brother (a crap excuse to get out of it) i wrote back with some smart answer saying i was going to kidnap her but now i cant. Then she wrote that she wanted to come but couldnt.
PUAs what do i do from here to get a day 2?

Brush her.

You’ve done something wrong, and she’s given you a completely bullshit excuse. Id really like to know what those msgs were so i can see where you’ve gone wrong. But generally you shouldn’t be texing her, you may have come off as the guy chasing her, and girls tend to like things to just happen rather than be chased.

From what i can tell, if its just that, id probably ignore her totally, dhv and every time i do talk to her id talk about what a fantastic time ive had with these really cool people and id toy with her, ask her what it means when a girl touches you and laughs.. and id ask her for advice and tell her shes like my little sister, and thank goodness i never went out with her. Gawd what a disaster that would’ve been, Shes so not my type and thank her.

LOL

It would toy her a little bit and will give you some time to work around her lame bitch shield.

Just some thoughts

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I agree completely, make her feel like she missed out and you were never attracted to her. Dropping stuff like little sister, just friends, and like one of the guys have been very succesful for me. In fact i used one of the guys today in a reply to an email

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My take on this.

Two things could have happened here.

1. You did something wrong, while building attraction.

2. Chick Test, she's calling out for some truth

Now, I'd need to know wha the texts said to understand better, but I'm not a therapist, use your best judgement and roll with it.

For number one.

You pretty much could tell if you didn't build attraction correctly. If you didn't build attraction correctly, she's obviously not interested, some signals would be she going out with other guy (when she cancelled on you).

For number two.

Dude, there is what you call a 'Chick Test'

You see, girls like to give questions that we don't want to have answer, the best way to deal with this is Give ONE RIGHT, and ONE COMPLETELY OFF, For example:

"Do you still have something with your girlfriend?"
No, but I will if you mention her again
"Why?"
Oh, just to make you jealous

"I have to do something with my brother"
You made plans with me, and expect you to keep them (Hang on her)

(This should be done with a "Matter of fact" voice, not mad, angry or sad, it shows unshakeable personality and that you have standards, if it doesn't fix anything, at least she will respect you)

"I'm afraid because we work together"
Oh don't worry, I won't tell anybody, they will find out on their own, and they will celebrate it.

Get it?

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Thanks for your help. Thats what this forum is all about.
Question: If i should not be texting her then what should i be doing? remember we are not up to the phone calling stage yet.
Next time i will prob see her is at work. So i am going to walk in there and give her barely any attention. Ill talk to the to the other guys.
But how should i let her know that her not coming on the date was a big mistake. What sort of stuff should i say if there are other collegues around??
Respect, Excitement

A chick test is a way to find out whether or not one of her bullshits will take you down, for example

A girl you met tells you: "I have a boyfriend" (Chick Test)
If you say "OK, I understand and walk away" You failed
If you say "Cool" and keep acting like nothing happened. You just plowed her test

Are you with me here?

If you fail one of her tests, all your work will be gone. By testing you, she makes sure you're a man worth sleeping with.

Now, as far as the answers go

Think about how women asks us men questions that we DONT want to answer, in your case, about if you still have something with your ex.

"Do you still have something with her"
No,but I will if you insist (Funny tone)

Breaking it down: By saying "No", you just implied that of course nothing is happening. By saying "But I will if you insist" you're telling her that her BS won't take you down, that you're unshakable (women find this extremely atractive)

Other case is demostratin authority over her world

Dude, if she flakes on you once, don't waste your time trying to "convince" her, notice how you show interest in her, even when you left your phone in your car, you shouldn't give her any explanations, specially through texting where you CANT explain any emotions.

If a woman flakes on you, call her out on it, call her out on her BS (not being mad, angry or sad), but with a straight face. Women hate when they can walk all over you, ask any woman.

Hope that helps,,,

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It really depends guys, there's really no clear answer. A HB8 I'm talking to now gave me the shit test because she's been hurt a lot in the past, and is trying to avoid "players". With those types of girls, they want to see if you're really interested or just playing games. If she flakes and you brush her, she'll think "he didn't really want me anyway." The same thing happened to me years ago with a mature HB7 that was afraid to date me because of my age, AND we worked together. What it took was me telling her in a nutshell that she can put me through all the "tests" that she wants, but I'm going to plow through them because I want her. Girls like determination, they feel prized. A few days later, I TOLD her, let's grab a bite to eat this evening, I'll call you when I get off work. She said okay immediately. You can persue a girl without coming off as an AFC. Just let her know that you see right through her. I've brushed plenty of HBs and lost them trying to play it too cool. But now I'm starting a "No HBs left behind" campaign.

It takes a bit of feeling her out, and you have to recognize that. Canned approaches can only take you so far.