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I don't know how, or when it happened, but at some point I became good enough at massaging women that they began commenting on how good they massage was.

At first it wasn't very common, but it was enough for me to take notice.

Over time, it became more frequent, almost to the point where every girl I lay my hands on said something.

Hmm, interesting, but why? I was doing everything technically the same, but now the comments were stacking up.

Well tonight, I decided to unleash the insane secrets....woooOOooooo

And as the title implies, this takes virtually no time to implement. Add the following ingriedients to your massage cocktaill next time you're getting intimate with a chick, and presto, just like those cheap TV commercials with that lumberjack bearded guy.

So first, some background.

* When is a good time for a massage?

Well, anytime really. But, usually at night. They are relaxing, and high noon usually isn't the perfect time of day to massage a girl for the first time. Afterall, first time's a charm with massages. It's like a second level first impression.

* Can you be more specific with the timing?

Yeah, real specific. When things are set to begin heating up. Weird analogy, but think of a massage as pre-heating your oven before you're going to cook something. It's not over when the beeper sounds, but at that point things can progress forward (if you did your job that is).

* Are you actually a Masseur?

Ha, no. One of my aunt's has been a masseuse for most of her adult life though. And yeah, she gives the best massages in the world, hands down (pun intended).

* Do I need to buy anything?

Um, no. You can if you want, but no dire need. "Things" won't make the difference in a massage, you will (this includes books/videos etc).

Although I will admit I have one of those cheap vibrating bug things, which are fun, but not as fun as giving a massage that nearly knocks a person out =).


So, enough bs, let's get to it.


Part 1- Enjoy, appreciate, and explore her entire body.

This came from The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (who has been invited to speak at the 2009 Convention).

This is huge, and not as easy as it sounds.

You have to *actually*

* appreciate
* enjoy
* and explore

Her entire body, or it doesn't work.

IE- you can't fake this stuff, and it will take time to reach this point. It's progressive though, so relax and have fun messing up and getting possibly a little negative feedback.

So what does this mean?

It can mean a lot of different things. For me personally, it means to almost literally "examine" her entire body (when she's laying on her front in this instance). The more senses you use, the better.

Be curious, like a child almost. Don't ignore anything.

From her back, to her neck, to her ears down her arms, all the way to her finger tips, and back again. Kiss her where she won't expect it, smell her hair before you give her ear a quick nibble, feel her breathe deeply, and let her feels your's.

Pay attention to anything like a mole or birthmark as well. It's important that you

* enjoy
* appreciate
* and explore

Her entire body.

Re-read that if you missed it.

This also means you don't get hung up on one particular area. This does not mean jump around like a nervous middle schooler on his first date. It means you're not focusing (physically or mentally) on one particular area to long.

For the record though, a few areas that will usually take their breath away...

* triceps
* sides of breasts (careful with this one, easy to get caught up on if you love boobs)
* quadriceps
* upper hamstrings (right below the ass, use wisely)
* neck (somewhat, but not as much as the above 4)

I know some of you are thinking..."quads, really?"

Yep, not even kidding. Largest bone in our bodies has plenty of muscle to massage, don't be shy. More importantly, she'll be pretty surprised when you reach there, and become even more surprised when she feels the sensation from your hands.

And for the record, yes, going for the legs is a great idea. The feet depend on the girl, some are into it, some hate it, some will just totally not care where you're hands go after a point .

Moving on....

Part 2- Be present, and focus on the now (0 days, 0 minutes, 0 seconds required)

This part sounds really simple, and is, but that does not make it easy for most.

You have to let go of the mental noise and mind identification. When you do this 100%, you'll know it, and so will she (and she'll be loving every minute of it).

Ultimately, it leads back to the previous points

* enjoy
* appreciate
* and explore

You can not consciously do these if you aren't fully present then and there. No if's and's or butts about it.

Being present is your greatest gift to women, and it takes a massage to a whole new level. It keeps you slow, calm, and focused on the 3 points, which will really drive her nuts, and usually turns out great for the both of you =).

Another thing she'll sense is that you lose the outcome dependence of the night. That is, being present and truly focusing on the massage makes what happens later, completely irrelevant on a deep level. Sure, you're both probably getting horny while this is going on, but it doesn't matter. That's after the fact, and it will usually take care of itself if you can just let go.

That's my post for today guys, hope you've enjoyed

-Dream