Hey, I have been in the game a bit, but haven't gone on a first date since a entered the community.

I have been on a first date, but not as a aspiring PUA. What is the deal with first dates when it comes to negging, kino, where yo go, how much interest should I show?

for example should I escort her with my arm around her hip or is that showing too much interest

I really just have no idea at all about first dates

i searched the forum, and links or advice would be much appreciated...

thanks

You should go to places you know & feel comfortable in. Not too loud so you can talk. I tend to kiss her cheek as soon as we meet & casually offer her my arm to hook.
On a date I don't use negative comment, unless it is obviously a joke & never about her appearance. You should touch when she makes you laugh, shocked etc. whatever feels right / natural. Touch often. Then man up and kiss her. Enjoy

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Dinner and A Movie too typical, if i take her somewhere nice will it appear I'm trying to hard

would the new bond be a bad first date movie?

there s a killer outdoor mall we could get food at and walk around with lots of street performers and stuff

Hey man if it aint broke don't fix it. So movie + dinner seems legit. For the first date, my rule of thumb is have her pay for it. Don't have her think that you are a free ride. She has to EARN you. Now I would always bring extra just in case she doesn't have any and you can neg her about it pretty well at this point.

Movie + dinner is fine but I like to personally reverse the order because I want to know her first, kino escalate during dinner (feed each other etc) and then move on to the movie and see what you can do there.

If you want stuff out of the "ordinary" there are plenty of posts on that (ex. car wash a personal fav) or go star gazing (that works really well).

Don't stress out on the first date, just keep calm, composed, cool and most importantly...PUA

good luck

It may be I'm old fashioned, I don't really think of it that way, but aspiring PUA or not I'm a gentleman and I'll pay hands down.

The whole make her pay thing, yeah I can see a skilled PUA doing that, but I don't feel like I'm that much of a baller to pull it off, and I have a feeling she's not into me enough to pull that off.

but yeah, dinner and movie sounds good. so we'll see what's up.