So yesterday i went to a birthday party with 6 of my friends - my best friend's girlfriend and her twin sisters birthday party. It was in a club and i opened one a 21 year old 7 with one of my own developed openers, and though it was a new answer i haven't heard before i easily managed to get through the approch and transition it.

After some fun from my friends kissing my cheeks, trying to make me embarreshed in the situation, which they failed, and my sole fellow PUA friend giving me DHV when he served me drinks (which he took back later ), my nPUA friend, whos girlfriend held the party, put a candy spaghetti (some danish stuff i don't know the english word for) in our mouth and we did the Lady & Tramp (but she kissed me instead of going embarreshed although i joked that she should do it

I got her number and we wrote a lot together today where i almost messed it up doing Gamblers 'Got something else to do in case she didn't show me enough interest' sort of.

But we spoke about meeting in a few days, but she wrote things like 'Not looking for a boyfriend' and later 'I think you are cute but i can't promise anything' and i replied saying 'That's why i wanted to meet you since i neither know if i want anything', and she also mentioned that 'I don't have sex with anyone but my boyfriend'. I know some of this is pure acting and it has to do with the fact that i need to prove that i'm something for her and not like i already can expect myself to be her boyfriend.

Is it stupid to ask her if you could see her in her apartment? What should i do and what should i be prepared for? What should my aim on the first date be and should i suggest meeting again before i leave her apartment in case she is interesting to me? In case i find her interesting and might want a relationship in case that matters how i should react when i meet her, but some casual sex is also alright

either she is shit testing you (in which case she is real nuts)

or she is not attracted to you and still shit testing you (in which case she is pure evil)

I think you need to nuke her.

Nuke? I don't understand that word in this context.

Could anyone add something to this conversation?

Nuke i think means ditch her

i think maybe your lowering your value a bit because your trying to get on a date etc, remember your the prize she should be chasing you,

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Great all the buttons on my phone are working,sorry to disturb you



this works great and will prob geta good reaction to text back so you can build attraction etc then finally get on that date with her

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Nice one.

You're right i should make myself the prize, but i guess it's too late now. But i have emphasized that i want to get to know her better, not like i really really really want to be your boyfriend. I guess that's a start.

We have until now had some good conversations via text messages, but i tried to find some good reasons for starting a new conversation with her. I think we have written together two times, i started them both. Maybe i should wait a while before writing her again. She seems semi interested in me, but i guess i'm a lot better to make DHV when meeting her rather than over the phone.

the thing is i dont like to get to know them better by text, online cus when u meet them in person you have nothing to say,

just say your out this weekend , and if shes near by maybe we both should hook up for a half hour or so and catch up then work ya magic

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Neither do i, but i am just afraid that if we don't plan anything within the next couple of weeks she will have forgotten about our talk about meeting again. I have only written to her twice, but i definately don't want to let her go just by doing nothing, nor would i like to seem like i can't miss her. BTW: She doesn't live very close to me and i guess we don't come to the same cities. But maybe i can arrange something in Aarhus (second largest city), she doesn't live to far from it and there's a reason/excuse to go there for me...

Go reverse. Be overtly sexual, heavy on the kino when you meet up with her. In my experience, girls with boyfriends seek out other guys because they're not satisfied sexually by their boyfriends. Don't take any of her shit tests to heart. Just come right back with the "Look, I'm sorry, I'm attracted to you, and you know what? I'm not really sorry. You're gorgeous" Just really confusing statements that indicate your "immense" attraction toward her. Then when you have her worked up, use a little push-pull, followed by more very direct statements. Hope this helps.

Peace

Honorstly, i don't find that idea of yours, Chinaski, as PUA. I guess that this is exactly what goes wrong for most PUAs. But i could be wrong and you could be right I just think a casual talk and some DHV talk will be good here, but that's the question i'm asking you.

telling her shes gorgeous makes her value increase and does nothing for you

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Exactly. I am aware of that, but thx for pointing out.

It's been an amazing beginning of this week. I've spoken with this girl, and she said happily yes to go shop christmas gifts on sunday with me. This time she didn't even sound a bit uncomfortable about it as she did when we spoke about meeting at her place, and she wasn't afraid of an early f-close (since she said she'd never have sex with other guys than her BF) [thx to you guys]

But that's not all, not AT all:
1) An 9, which i posted about in another thread of mine, has now accepted to meet for karaoke on friday (said my friends and me were going to sing some Singstar (karaoke-game) friday or saturday) and she said that she wasn't available saturday, but friday she was [thx to the guys posting in the other thread on this subject].
2) Got in contact with at 8 i haven't talked with but a few short times saying 'Can't...' in half a year when i asked her to join a party - this time she said it sounded nice but she couldn't come. The next day she asked me what i was doing and asked me if there were any partying - i was going for a christmas lunch (what do you call this christmas dinner thing in UK?), but she could join me in a nightclub later - however, she was only 17 and couldn't come in. Ran some DHV on her.
3) Got to write with a girl i was in love with for 5 years (hadn't spoken for the last 3.5 years but a little within the last half year), however since i met her at a party being cool around her female friend and getting IOIs from her, i have talked a little with her, espically that night, but this very sunday i had a really great talk with her and she said she would like to join me at my friend's party one day (even though she has a BF)..

So it seems that i can get 3 very interesting girls to a party at my friend's place (7,5 ; 8 and 9) and my date on sunday (7)

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OH, forgot. Last friday i picked up a phonenumber in a discount market (8) from a girl i've met only one or two times behind the disk in the shop and only spoken lightly with. This is the first time ever i've got even 10% of the way of getting a non-nightclub n-close

Long phone text with every character doesn't work, no response yet. hehe