I number closed a Vietnamese girl who I had arranged to meet and for some reason she turned up with her boyfriend which left me a bit confused as they were obviously together holding hands and kissing am not sure why this happened. Is there any way I can prevent this from happening in the future?

Talk about worst case scenerio, did you specify it was a date type meeting? Or did she think you were going to talk about homework over a coffee?

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yeah. dont get put in the LJBF zone.

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This is absolutely brutal, howd open and close this one before hand. I just want to see if it somehow could have been your fault or if she was possibly just oblivious to everything. I must say talk about the worst possible scenario.

WOW... I have never even heard of this before... You are awesome! Maybe she wanted you as a third and he came to approve... lol

Don't even feel bad tho. I think I speak for everyone when I ask how did this happened?? You have to tell us. Also, what ended-up happening at the d2? She could just be a sadistic bitch whose into making other people feel extremely awkward.

You give us more info and someone will tell you where you went wrong.

Don't worry about this happening again tho bro... That occurrence is like one in a LOT!

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I think I know what's up with this one... The fact that you could tell she was Vietnamese from your first conversation means that it must have been pretty obvious she was a foreigner.

Now human psychology may be a universal thing, but it's been posted here before that the specific PU routines developed in this community are most effective on women of European descent. Just look at posts made by people who visited, for example, Japan. The problem is that it's easy for subtle, indirect game to be interpreted as friendliness, and if you suggest meeting again, they'll likely agree out of politeness.

If this kind of thing is a concern for you, just focus on building attraction more before you get your hopes up about a number. Look for universal indicators of interest such as body language if they aren't native English speakers. And even if you did build up a lot of attraction, her bringing the boyfriend is still VERY unlikely and could be due to factors outside your control. For example, maybe she was planning to go out in secret but he found out and demanded to come along.

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You got caught in the LJBF zone.
This kind of happened to me too but I solved it.
I arranged a night out and we could not settle on a date because I had no time when her BF would not wanna turn up. (She wanted to meet me alone.) So what I did was to act alpha and be a nice guy to him. In the end he thought of me as a really nice guy and was more seduced than her.
Anyways, she still shows interest so I guess sometimes girls want to see and compare to find out if it is worth going for the new one or not.

yo.. i feel for you on that one man.

don't let it phase you though, even though you got put in the friend zone. You are still making progress.. a lot of guys struggle just trying not to creep a girl out.

keep at it bro.

Sounds like she did not see your meeting as a date. She didn't do it to be mean... she probably just didn't get any impression from you that meeting up would have any relationship/sexual connotations to it.

I don't have many details about how you set this up, but my guess is that you made no overt or even implicit framing that your interaction was at all sexual.

Hate to say it, but she probably thought you were just a "nice guy".

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