Ok I just got into this. I'm having fun with this so I don't want a SERIOUS girlfriend already lol..So basically i have this girl who i had stay the night with me. We didn't really do anything the first time. The 2nd night (very next night) we made out but she was on her period so we didn't go any further then that. But she was cuddly and everything else and i felt like she was my girlfriend. She wants to hang out all the time now, and everytime we go out she wants to stay the night and the last time she did she stayed till 6pm and I like WANTED her to leave. Basically the question is if i have sex with this girl I don't want it to be a relationship. I want it to be like a "hey we are friends but NOT lovers" or should i not even take it to that level or what. I mean she's friends of friends so like last weekend when I go out i'm trying to sarge and she's texting me like "who are you talking to?" I don't want that right now i just got out of a LTR and I want to just meet peopel and get better and approaching and meeting people in general. I mean should I not try to have sex with this girl or what? Any advice or tips on handling this is appreciated thanks guys.

Hey Bro,

You raise a very interesting point. After I exited my marriage I was in the same boat you are in now. I wanted to meet people and just date, but women wanted to make me a boyfriend. There are a few ways to handle this but basically its about setting expectations from the moment you meet.

Typically, when I first meet a girl and I get to any kind of comfort level with her I explain that I'm just out for dating people. I also explain that if I get serious with one specific girl then I'll cut the other stuff off, but that's not what I'm after.

Sometimes you don't get this chance in the first meeting because you don't have time to get to the comfort phase or whatever. Maybe you caught her number in 15 minutes of day game and had to go. Whatever, just when you get the opportunity explain this so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

When you are very up front with people and to the point then it's easier later in the relationship because you've already told them you are just looking to date people. If things get more serious I might throw in a reminder later on.

---Now that I'm off my soapbox and done with my set proper expectations speech we need to get into your specific situation. This girl is very clingy! I've dated lots of them just like this girl and had several girlfriends identical to this.

Remember, the decision to have sex with a guy is a big investment for a woman. Her connection with you is based on emotion and not on logic. If you take the step to have sex with her she's going to be more emotionally invested in you. She's going to want to see you more now that she has that connection. Once you cross that line you can't go back and undo it.

It's your decision to make but if she is this clingy and you don't want her to be all over you then I wouldn't have sex with her. I would also sit her down and talk to her about what you want. Do this soon because the longer you wait the harder this will get.

Finally, I will say that I don't game girls inside my social circle of friends because it makes a complicated situation a more complicated one.

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I think your logic is perfect. I don't think it would be a good idea to have sex with her if she's gonna be hanging out with the dudes I know. Becaues it will just make things complicated. She is already very clingy and I just knew if I did take it any further she would EXPECT and WANT more to come of us. If I didn't go for it i feel like she'd be upset like I led her on. Maybe i'll just let her know exactly how you said that i'm just in it to date, and just keep her around to flirt with her for fun. Hell maybe I can even use her as social proof you know? She's pretty cute so...If I let her know that I absolutley don't want a relationship I just want to date and meet people and she wants to press the issue I may let it happen that way it would all be on her, and i let her know from the start...Thanks alot man. Appreciate it.

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You are most welcome sir.

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