So you meet a girl and arrange a date, what now?

From personal experience, here are some things NOT to do:


Never-ever brag! Bragging suggests you are trying to impress a girl which is a serious mistake! You want her to think of you as challenge somebody she has to chase, and not the other way round!


Generally, don’t talk about past relationships. Relationship talk is usually serious and deep, and a first date should be light-hearted and fun!


Don’t pay for all the drinks and a meal, if you eat. Go Dutch and share the cost. This is important simply because you want to come across as a challenge to the girl, somebody she has to pursue, instead of you chasing her. If she has to share the cost of drinks and/or a meal then she will find you a challenge unlike most other men!


Don’t’ worry! Realize it’s not the end of the world if the date does not work out! There are millions and millions of single women out there!

Again from experience, here are some things to understand and do:


First realize that a date is just a possible romantic meeting and nothing more, it does not necessarily mean it’s the start of a full-blown romantic relationship.


Try to be relaxed and project confidence. Suggest, by telling personal stories, that you are a confident guy who’s got an interesting life.


Make gentle and natural contact as soon as possible!


Remember first dates should be about having a fun time and getting to know each other a little – not deep and meaningful conversations!

The following quote is From AskMen – First Date Blunders: http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_15 ... xpert.html

“Do not touch your date. Don't grab her knee. Don't try to hold her hand. Don't squeeze her shoulder and don't put your arm around her. Men mistakenly think that if they initiate touching, it will somehow "prime the pump" and make the woman want to touch them . The opposite is true. The more you put your hands on her, the more it inhibits her.
The wise man holds back and lets the woman do all the touching, if she is so inclined. The only way you can get a clear "read" is if you watch and wait without trying to manipulate her Interest Level. “


This is very bad advice! Certainly don't maul a girl but certainly do make light and natural contact so you build a physical connection.

Here's a quote from www.fastseduction.com

I was spending time with my main girl this weekend, and we started talking about how men touch women.
She said, "Most men are so stupid! Either they don't touch you, or they grab and hold!"

I laughed and let her continue. "A good touch is a little touch. Hand on back for a second or just touching each other as you're walking."

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thanks for the post. great stuff
i'm going on a first date today, i came up here to find advices, and boost confidence prior. perfect

Thanks a bunch i too am prepping for a first date and came here for some little tid-bits before i get there

On the last few first dates that I have, it ends with a hug. Is it such a bad thing not to get at least a kiss?

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Ideally you want to get at least a hug from her at the end of when you first meet her, don't wait for the first date. If you haven't broken the "hug barrier" before the first date, it is one more obstacle you have to address on the first date before you can escalate to a k-close. You want to k-close on the first date for sure, but if it doesn't feel natural to her, then you're probably done for anyway.

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I dont get why you say no touching i mean this site can not stop talkin about how important kino is and even that one thread talked about the physcology testing on how touching effects how people act with you. I would like to know why you think touching is bad.

He's saying you SHOULD touch. The article recommends that you don't touch, and he's saying that it's bad advice. I completely agree. I think you should definitely K-close before the first date is even over. Don't do the "kiss at the end of the date" crap - that's lame. You read the situation, and go for it.

Obliviously they are talking about the creepy touching. Trying to escalate too fast. Kino is always good as long as it appears to be without afterthoughts. As long as the girl doesn't see you trying to get in her pants, touching is good.

This is the tightrope that men are forced to walk. You must escalate sexuality without the "creepy creepy".

A confident, warm touch to the knee or elbow is much, much better than some sweaty, jittery feel for the hand. You just have to learn to calibrate . . . how? Go on a thousand dates that's how . . .

But typically, you begin easy . . . .A simple way to look at this is to draw a mental bulls eye on the HB's pussy. Then begin drawing target rings outwards. So you start waaaaay out on the low point rings.

Don't want to derail the thread into a kino thread but since it came up. . . .

The way you begin is with a handshake but not with a typical handshake like some business greeting. You lift your right hand just high enough so that it becomes visible and you offer it to her but instead of crossing your hand toward her right hand, you actually move it out a bit towards her left hand. Usually, she will just go for it with her left hand. Then you hold her hand a bit and ask, "You always shake hands with your left hand?" This is a good start. Have fun . . .