Ok, I appreciate all the people here giving advice and everything, but seriously, I'm getting all this conflicting advice that I'm thinking of fucking everything and just going through with the day 2.

On the one side, Adam Lyons, a prominent PUA, advocates doing an activity for the first date where you can kino, have fun, and not have so much pressure to have some sort of interesting, wacky conversation for hours.

Then there are other people in the forum like Xargon, whose posts I appreciate, that say that you should go out to a coffee shop and have some sort of interesting conversation and get to know her better.

Maybe both? Activity and then coffee shop?

Furthermore, there are others who say you must go out during the night and others who state that going out during the day is all right.

Why not have a date that begins in the day and ends at night?

Also, one person says the first date should be where you give the girl space and let her get comfortable, and another says you MUST k-close on the first date. So.... I'm horribly confused.

Maybe the issue is more situational and more of depends on the girl and her history?

All I was thinking of for the first date was going out rock climbing during the day but now I'm not sure if that's a good idea...

I hate to cry for help but... HELP!!!

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First of all, there is no manual to the perfect date.

Take a look at your gal and decide which date would best suit her. Then calibrate it.


Some things I've realised:

First impressions count. The girl decides if it's on within the first couple seconds of seeing you, so make sure you have a good frame, you built comfort but most importantly ATTRACTION.

Otherwise, fuck, you'll just end up with another friend. And once you're LJBF'd you're fucked.

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Nice advice. I feel like so much depends on the girl and the situation that one has to constantly adapt one's tactics and methods. So I think I might go bowling? I'm not sure if it's a good shot of getting kino but hey, it's always fun to get competitive over a bowling game.

The girl I'm trying to take out is a dancer so if that info helps, help me out.

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Ive said it before,

GO PAINTBALLING!

how many guys does she know that would do that with her?

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Its simple: Do what fits you best!

Different day2s fit different personalities, different situations and different girls. Hell, I've even had a percetly good day2 in a cafe at 8AM in the morning once

Yes, it's partially YOUR personality and partially HER personality that come into play. Who cares what the hell other people do, really?

I personally would prefer to bring girls back to my place for a day 2 and cook some dinner, play some video games or maybe watch a movie and then hit the bedroom. That's how I like to roll though and some girls are down with that and some would much rather "actually DO something" as I've been told, lol. In which case, we can go for a walk, meet at, or go to a club, go to the mall, an art gallery, a music festival, whatever I can find in common with the girl.

So, figure out a bunch of things you like to do that are affordable to you (free is my favorite price) and figure out what sorts of things she likes to do and then pick one or two things to run by her. DO NOT run a list of more than 3 things by her! If she suggests something, or mentions something that you might want to do, then do that, cause you know that she likes it already and people love sharing things they love with new people.

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