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Didn't have a choice in the matter when I was running late FYI - not sometting I made up as it's my job. If it's a strike, so be it. Not in my control.
Make a date that fits your schedule next time. This is the kind of shit that women who know their value won't tolerate.
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Agreed - should have asked her back to my place on the 2nd date. The reason I didn't was because she mentioned via convo how she doesn't sleep on the first date with someone.
That's too much conversation then. Bounce to your place at the high point (or outside for the kiss), usually 30-45 minutes into the date in my experience.
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everything else on every forum including this one suggested "call back humour" which I wasn't sure about but I guess that cost me.
Call back humor or stories between you and a new woman after a first date or conversation have long been advised by PUA's. But it's IMHO a needy tactic unless you're conveying a truly unique moment. It's the kind of stuff a woman should be doing to you, bringing up tiny, tiny details of your conversation in order to make sure you remembered how "awesome" your date was. It's based out of fear, and isn't living in the moment. Obviously this changes once a woman has "the talk" with you, or its obvious you have a great connection after a couple weeks of sex, etc.
Most guys will think, "isn't just saying, 'hey what's up'"? cold or weird.
No.
If the in-person interaction is good, simple, neutral texts will not hurt you. But flowery, try-hard texts will.
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Not going to double text or plan to but if if I don't get a reply by late next week am I still waiting?
Don't consider it "waiting", because you're going to be seeing/talking to other women. Remember, you're the prize. If she doesn't act accordingly, go about your life. If she's attracted to you at all, she'll reach out.
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Edit: can you or someone else explain how to set up a date 2nd time when we're starting with hey how's it going?
You: Hey Sarah.
her: Hi Snow.
You: Netflix, and drinks at my place on tuesday, 9.
Then you go about your career goals, or read a good book, or hit the gym.
Attraction is not a choice. It's not something you "water". either two people are into each other, or not. Girls are in fact visual creatures like men when it comes to sex. Check out this link, which shows how myths are being busted concerning women and sex:
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and- ... ale-desire
The point is, a girl knows if she's going to sleep wit you pretty quickly. All you have to do is not talk her out of it. That's where 95% of men fuck up.
And go back and look at my text example. That's a text you'd send a friend when making plans. Keep this same, chill indifference for women. now, of course, once things get hot and heavy, obviously you'll be sexting amongst other things. But that's a great way to go early on in courtship, and a general rule to follow overall.
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Edit2: She replied, said "yea sounds good
maybe weds?" What do we think guys (or just Arch who posts here)? Just reply with sounds good, see you then?
Her: Okay, Netflix and drinks at your place sounds good.
You: Cool, looking forward to it. See you then.