sorry for the bad grammer, my English skills where never that strong.

edit I'm 23 yr if that helps and live in northern ireland :p

OK, so there is this girl (24 yr old) that my friend had been in a ralationship for 5 years with and about a year ago they broke up. he moved out and they now hate each other. they have the same friend group and agreed that they can both be civil to each other when around company.

so about 6 months ago we were out at a club and she starts hitting on me (my friend didn't go out that night) she was showing lots of IOI'S. I didn't really know how to take it because I liked her but I felt bad doing that on a friend and I didn't like being stuck in the middle of them having to choose. we ended up going back to her flat for a party and I ended up sleeping in her bed. she started escalating first but I was way to drunk and got whiskey dick (it happens ocasionally when I drink to much lol.)
I ended up flaking on her and Decided to just leave it as I thought it would get to complicated .

I've recently started smoking weed with her male SPAM and we're good friends now. I'm down in her flat basically every day just chilling.

we went out at the weekend as a crowd, there was probably 15+ of us, she went also. she was acting a bit funny like she was keeping her distance and usually she's asking me to go out for smokes etc, but she wasn't. so I ended up talking to this girl who was floating around where we were standing. wasn't really interested in gaming her as I just wanted to make it look like I wasn't needy and that if I wanted to I could go home with someone else.

she went in a bad mood the rest of the night and then she went home about a hour before the club closed and didn't tell anyone, I assumed that this was because of me.
she phoned me and asked where her SPAM was. I said he was beside me and we were about to get a taxi home(I meant that I was going to drop him off then go home myself) she said il see you when you get back so I assumed she was OK with me going back to her flat. we ended up in bed again, she gave me a bj and I returned the favour but we didn't have sex.

I was starting to like her again and didn't really care what my friend thought as we havnt really been speaking that much lately. we went out to get food a couple of times, mainly a burrito bar (I wouldn't really call them dates it was to casual or something and we didn't kiss or anything ) I asked her out on valentines day as we were both doing nothing, she said she would let me know because she doesn't know if she is working or not (she's a waiter) I found this a bit weird because a couple of days before this I was chilling in her flat with her and her SPAM. her friend called round and they ended up talking about valentines day she then turned round to me and said why havnt a asked her out yet (making it out as if she was joking but she was being serious) then when I do she doesn't know if she can? :/

I havnt been texting her at all really because I see her in the flat a lot but I would tag her in random stuff on Facebook that we were maybe talking about previously or something.

the thing that's bugging me is last night I was down chilling with her SPAM. she came in from work and chilled with us for 30 minutes or so then said she was going to bed as she had work in the morning. I left about an hour later and when I got home and checked Facebook she blocked me, I don't understand why she did this as I don't think I've gave her a reason to.

I thought that I might be coming on a bit strong (or not strong enough) and maybe that is a suttle way of telling me to back off or maybe I'm over thinking this (I tend to over thinking alot)

I honestly do like this girl and could see myself in a ralationship with her but I don't want to fuck anything up. I have never been in a ralationship I've only had one night stands and fuck buddy's so I realise than I havnt got a clue what I'm doing.

I apologise for the long post but I wanted to be as detailed as possible incase I'm missing something.

any help you guys could give me would really mean alot, and thanks in advance

Quit falling for the mind game. You didn't give her attention at a bar, she left and went home early. You spent time with a friend when she got home from work and she blocked you from facebook. See the pattern?

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I did realise this but didn't think to much of it as she would sit with us most of the time anyway.
is there any way I could redeem the situation or should I just leave it?

My advice is to keep living your life. Don't even mention the Facebook thing. Keep going to the flat and hanging out with her SPAM and let her be. I know this is vague but in this case it's unfortunately what you have to do.

Think about it, she blocked you....she's waiting for you to come asking why. Keep living life. Women wants attention and go about in the wrong way. If you go kissing her ass and asking “But why did you do that? Why? What's wrong? Are you okay?” you're giving her the power.

My advice is to let it play itself. She will talk to you and just be you.

Plus, quick Q. Have you asked your friend if it was cool to hang out with her ex?

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Redeem the situation? Do what you did the last time she reacted to not getting your attention. Go about your business and she'll come back to you.

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the last time was in a club when I pulled her friend that she brought along, dick move I know but this was when we were just friends

not yet. I was waiting until I knew what was happening between me and her, it. relationship, fuck buds, whatever.
he should be alright with it tho

turns out she's been sleeping with my friend for nearly a year and she's been leading me on for quite some time then I slept with her 2 days ago and we only found out, like wtf? lol

Drop her

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I already have but she wants to talk so it's not awkward lol it's a bit more complicated because we have the same friend group and see each other regularly

Treat her casually. Not sure if you want to keep banging her, if that's the case, then its on you my brother.

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I really can't be asset with all the drama of it so I think I'm going to leave it the way it is now.
thanks for the advice BTW, it really helped

on the flip side, there's another girl I was dating for a while when I was in the army. it was long distance and we stopped talking a few years ago because she was getting pissed off with me leaving all the time. i want to start talking to her again but don't know how to go about it.

Contact her. 90% of the time that I talked to a girl from my past, they wanted to hang out. Although, keep in mind that when I contacted them I was totally different to the guy that they remembered. Often they would say, wao you look so different and at the end I bang them.

Make sure you project that you have been doing well. That's attractive.

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