Hi,
I went to a first date with a girl last Sunday(after we just chatted from time to time on facebook). The way I impressed her to get her to a date was going to a event she organised 2 weeks ago by not telling her and that really impressed her, I clearly built attraction I can tell you that by the way she was looking at me. She told me to do things like that again because she likes it.
After this date (which was very short after she re-scheduled because she had to leave the town and prepare her things for the trip - so I could not build too much sexual attraction, we were just very talkative, a little kino-she wanted to show me some photos on her phone so we got close) she invited me to her place to give me a tablet to have a look at it but I didn't tried to kiss her (she has the anti-slut shield in full mode, I am pretty sure it wouldn't work at that moment). During the date we were talking about the place where I got her and she told me she will get me to another place the next date, the problem is we didn't schedule it at that moment.
Now I made the biggest mistake... because I knew that I didnt build too much sexual attraction at the date, I said to myself to text more with her while she's not in town (this last week) and get the things in a romantic direction. The mistake is that I started to text her more than I did before (before.. maybe one longer convo, now 2-3 short convos a day) and started to use kiss emoticons from while to while(yes face-palm youself
). To see how big her anti-slut shield was she was asking questions like ("for what this kiss", and today she just said "why you're kissing me so much?" and I did it maybe 5-6 times this week, mostly instead of goodbye. I said to her: "Because I feel like that". Most girls I talk too dont really give a shit about this, most of them just send a kiss back.. its not a big deal.. but for this girl seems so strange.
I became needy and I this has to stop. Also I think she's very very inexperienced, I dont even know if she had any relationships before (she's 20).
I have that tablet of her at my place, I will have to return it back sometime, how should I proceed from now ? She's back in town but she's very busy because she has a lot of projects. Should I not text her anymore or maybe once at 2-3 days ? If she's not saying me about that next date we agreed should I ask her to get out maybe next weekend? I take into consideration also the fact that she might by so shy and afraid of telling me about a date because of that inexperience regarding dates.
Also on Wednesday there is that event again where they are watching a movie. At the date she told me: "Hey don't go this next week at the movie, I won't be there, come next week when I'll be there". Should I go ? Wouldnt it look needy (especially after this awful week when I ruined maybe 25% of the attraction she had for me).
How to start getting in sexual discussions without her activating the anti-slut shield ? If we'll go on the next date I will definitely try to get her hand while we walk, and kiss her at the end, of course if it wont be creepy. If she'll refuse me wtf, she's maybe not too attracted of me and I'll go to the next girl. Maybe give me an example of a few texts I can send to her ?
I know that I am overthinking, but I think she would be a very suitable girl for me, and I am very busy, I have a company and I work like 12 hours a day so I dont have time to hang out all the time, meet girls etc. That's why I want to know this girl better, maybe we can have a relationship. I still dont know if she's shy or she doesnt have much interest and I want to see that. Of course I will quit if I wont get her soon, I don't have the time to deal with her shyness/anti-slut shield too much.
Thanks
CHAT