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Day 1. Met hb9 in LA for a friends bachelor party 5 weeks ago back in august. Great vibe, connection, k closed. I was really doubtful that this would lead to anything because I live in SF. However, we were able to stay engaged and she came up yesterday for her friend's bday and invited me to hangout.
Day 2. I was really trying hard to avoid hanging our with her friends and go for the one on one but no luck there since she was there for her friends bday for that day only. When I showed up at the restaurant it was her, bday girl, and her bf. (the dreaded double date) She gave me good IOIs when I came, bright smile, moved over for me sit next to her in the waiting area, complimented on my necklace, touched my jacket saying it was nice. During dinner vibe was good, kino under the table and got along well with the couple. She rolled with me to the next spot and I got her a cheap vape pen from one of my vendors in reference to something she liked on our day 1 and she was stoked. Now, this is where everything starts going downhill. I thought we were going lounging and somewhere lively after dinner but bday girl wanted to go to Ghiradelli Square to get ice cream. This completely sapped the energy out of the night. I couldn't escalate physically beyond arm around waist/shoulder because the couple were literally 6 feet away from us the whole time. Ended up walking around fishermen's wharf till 1145 then we decided to go to a lounge. When we got there we finally had a moment alone while the couple was parking. I was trying to get her to go up with me first but she was insistent on waiting on them but eventually we went in anyway. When we got in the elevator, I said "hey, I haven't held you all night, come here" then we embraced for about 5 seconds before the door opened. Inside the bar walked around for 5 minutes held hands then guess who shows up. The bar basically closed 10 min after then bday girl wanted to go home. Made a last ditch effort to go to Golden Gate Bridge but she didn't want to leave her friend. When we hugged she gave me a kiss on one cheek then I paused while facing each other but she kissed the other cheek while the couple was right next to us. That was the night.
I was really down on this one because day 1 went so well and this was such a low. Is she straight up not interested, too much social pressure, or was it just a fucked up situation with this date? Could I have done something different to try to isolate her. Keep in mind she's also the shy and reserved type.
I am going back to LA in a few weeks. Is this a next or you guys think it's worth pursuing?
You tell us to keep in mind she's shy and reserved,
but completely disregarded that yourself.
If you know she's that way, why did you agree to a double date in the first place? I mean you're putting yourself in a position of fighting an uphill battle and then you come to us asking why you're fighting an uphill battle...
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