I'll try to keep this as short as possible and only stick to the details I think are relevant. I'm trying not to make this a brag post so if it sounds like one, tell me what stuff I can omit in future posts. Thanks for reading
I went on a first date with this 20y/o HB8 I met about a week ago. We had a nice inexpensive dinner at a casual place and chatted about a lot. I did some rapport building, kino escalation, and built a solid connection. Mentioned my tarot cards that I just bought that day (100% true actually) and she got a little scared. Turns out she's afraid of them because horror movies always portray them as evil, etc. I convinced her that there's nothing to fear and that I'd show her back at my place.
Took her to my room to get the cards but then kicked her out so we could go to the common area (in a shared home, long story). I showed her there's nothing fear with the cards and did a quick 3 card past-present-future reading. It seemed to put her at ease. We chatted more and I continued kino escalation. People kept walking past us going up stairs and getting ready for bed etc. so I suggested we move up to my room. She agrees with no hesitation.
I suggest we do a 12-card reading (each card represents a different month). I lit candles and turned off the light to improve the reading
She was really amazed at the accuracy. Some of the cards didn't make sense though so I told her we should try to focus her mind on them. I walk her through a shallow trance (I'm a hypnotism enthusiast so I made up an induction and walkthrough). After she comes out of trance I sense the attraction and go in slow for a kiss. I get close but not close enough for a kiss and make her come to me. Kiss, fireworks, etc. I stop suddenly, pull away, and tell her I like her and I don't want to move too fast. She agrees. Then we really start making out.
We start rolling around on the bed kissing, dry humping, etc. I'm doing escalation but get occasional resistance. I pull back a lot when I get resistance but not a total freeze-out. It seemed unnatural (maybe a mistake?). Things escalate and then I tease touching her pussy. Touching near it but not actually touch it. I can tell she wants it (building tension). I "accidentally" touch it with my elbow and she is loving it. I touch with my hands and she's loving it. My intuition tells me she wants some choke play which I oblige, do some light spanking, make her say yes sir, etc. (maybe this is bragging a little. What I'm getting at is that she likes some light BDSM). She keeps grabbing my (clothed) cock as I go to town on her her (clothed) pussy in different positions. In the "sir" personality I tell her it would be easier to play with her pussy if she takes off her belt.
(She shakes her head) ... no sir
I do a freeze out but keep the lights off (candles still burning). We go through a couple cycles of fondling and then freeze out of I get too close to skin-on-skin hand-to-pussy touching. She doesn't want to go too far on the first date (I suspect ASD).
Now here's what I think went wrong
I built tension well leading up to us playing in bed but I went too far too fast. I didn't build enough tension before trying to touch her pussy. I know this girl is hot for me so it's frustrating to get the pushback, but I understand. I kept hitting one of her ASD triggers and that is a no-no.
My first question is, how would you have played this differently? I actually was not after an f-close. I prefer to tease and withhold. I flat out told her we're not doing any "funny business" tonight. Even still, I think her ASD really kicked in when she thought "oh shit, this is the first date. I'm not supposed to fuck on the first date." Maybe it's her relative immaturity to the situation? I know she is not a virgin.
My second question is, how would you play the 2nd date? My thought is to have another nice date, continue doing rapport building, strengthen the connection, and hint at bedroom fun, but act like it's not going to happen because I'm tired or something. She'll be wanting but think she's not getting. I really want to build the tension so that by the time we do go to the bedroom and my hand is near her pussy she is begging for the real thing. Again I want to deny her the D and save it for the 3rd date.
Thoughts? Comments? Criticism?
I'm all ears
CHAT