This is happening between me and a female friend of mine that we haven't seen each other for a log time but recently cached up and some flirting occurred.

Me: (sending and date invitation message) hey [nick name] me with some cool friends of mine are going to this carnaval fest at downtown later in 5:30, you should definitely come. You are not opposed to the idea of spending amazing time are you ?

She: I'm absolutely not against with the little exception that I just got on the train for out of town. I'm totally speechless, why this had to happen exactly now? I dont understand.

Me: (start flirting) I suppose there is some mysterious force trying to keep us apart from one another.

She: Damn! What are we going to do ?

Me: We?! Me... i'm carrying on with my life. As for you i think it will more painful, but with time you will overcome it.

She: (seems like she took this personally although it was a banter joke obviously). You alway know it all for the others. I hope you have an inflatable bed on which to fall in case you fall from very high.. Have fun!

Me: I understand you feel bad because you are away at this time of the event. You do excess overdramatise.
PS: I have inflatable...

(and yes I know I messed this end with logic here, so keep you nibbling at me. If you have some constructive criticism then go ahead)


This days i'll try to catch up with something else and see how is she going... Or I'll repeat date invite scenario further in time.

And the major question is: do you think her getting moody is indication that she likes me? (because if she didn't got moody she wouldn't care and be like: whatever)


Any ideas btw of what I could have done better after she sent the upset text ?

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Me: We?! Me... i'm carrying on with my life. As for you i think it will more painful, but with time you will overcome it.

She: (seems like she took this personally although it was a banter joke obviously). You alway know it all for the others. I hope you have an inflatable bed on which to fall in case you fall from very high.. Have fun!

Me: I understand you feel bad because you are away at this time of the event. You do excess overdramatise.
PS: I have inflatable...

that last one you should have said:

ME: haha thanks you too!
so how come you are leaving town? a little weekend vacation?






why? kinda hard to explain all in one bit. i'm writing a book about it, but i'll do my best

its all about positivity

because that "Have fun!" could have ment:
a)have fun at that place you told me about
or
b)yeah good bye,

and the funny thing is, for something to mean more than just words, both people have to agree on what that it means. Therefore we have the power to "change" the meaning of something that wasnt defined by both her and you. Like if you interpret "Have fun!" to mean goodbye, as you kinda did, it now means that, and she never replies back. But if you interpret it to be a complement, and complement back, you make that frase mean "have fun at that place you told me about!", your positivity makes the meaning change. Now, even if she did mean goodbye, you have been so nice that she feels all warm towards you and feels bad for being so harsh, and if it meant "have fun at that place", you were nice about it, and can now procede to talk to her so you can arrange a later date another day.

if you take that "Have fun!" and reinterpret it on a more positive and exiting way, your frame has more energy than her initial frame and yours wins over hers, she gets more positivity and gets happier, and therefore wants to keep talking to you.

It doesnt even matter what that action ment, if you "make it" mean something more positive, that action now means what you said it means. That applies to conversations all the time. The meaning of the words doesnt rely on the words, it relies on the interaction.

Know what i mean? Hey i would love some feedback if i wrote that book, that is full of this kind of advice and content, would you be interested in reading it?

Good luck!

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Yes I get the idea. I now exactly what you mean.

I might be interested, although i've read plenty of books about persuasion, word order, phone game and language itself.

What kind of book more specifically you are about to write ?

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