Hey guys so I just set up my first date with a chick I met at a bar. I set it up over the phone, I know I'm supposed to keep the first phone conversation short, but before I knew it 30 mins had past and I was the one to end the conversation though. Is it bad to have talked for so long? It was a fun/flirty conversation. Also, my main reason for posting is we set up our first meetup a week from today because she couldn't before then. Since that's kinda far away, should I still refrain from texting or calling her until the meetup? Or is it ok to text every once in awhile to keep some interest going. Thanks so much guys!

Text her on the day a few hours before your date saying you're running half an hour late. This will remind her if she's forgotten and reduce flakes.

Resist texting between now and then unless to build sexual tension.

Ya I totally get that. I'm just a lol worried that since we're not seeing eachother for a week that no contact for a week would increase the chances of flaking. So I'm not supposed to have any contact whatsoever? I've tried it before and the girl flaked after I didn't contact her for like 5 days with no meetup in between.

Have you kissed her yet?

Set up more dates, with other girls before this date , and then you will get the date from this girl and she won't flake , and if she does ,you already have more dates setup , what happens is your care levels change which changes your game and how you come off which will help your text game before meeting this girl I would personally try to get to know her better and open her up more build a connection with her on text and find out her logistics and have her meet up with. Me before the week date , and if she was out of state on business and possibly couldn't meet before , I would add some anchors getting her excited about our date coming up which will have her investing on being there

Ah solid advice guys thank u! And to answer the pervious question nah I haven't kissed her yet. Just met her at the bar and set up our day 2 for a week away. Wanted to keep the attraction and interest there since the meetup seems far away

That's where you're going wrong and also why you're getting a lot of flakes.

You need to be more physical with girls before you try and set up Day 2's. Sometimes during day game you can't always get the kiss, but you can compensate by being physical. Strong eye contact, touch her a lot, frame yourself as a sex-worthy guy.

For night game in the clubs: No excuse for not getting the kiss!

Girls will never invest in you emotionally if you're scared of getting physical.

Nice job man. Nothing wrong at all for talking for half an hour on the phone. I think thats a good thing since the girl is more comfortable with you now and will be less likely to flake. In terms of contacting her leading up to your date, I would text her every other day, or even every day is fine. Don't text her constantly. But if you shoot her a text at around 9 pm asking her how her day was and then keeping the text convo simple and flirty, I dont think theres anything wrong with it.

The key thing to remember is that there is never just one way to do things. Just because one thing works for one girl, it may not work for another. Just try things out and see what works.

Respectfully disagree. You shouldn't be texting a girl you've only just met (let alone never kissed) every day. Your main goal should be getting physical right off the bat, setting the frame for sex straight away / piquing her interest in you, getting her hooked and setting up a Day 2 asap. If you've got her hooked correctly, she will make time for you and usually arrange to meet within the next 3-4 days, ideally the next 48 hours. If she gives you an excuse or a date quite far in the future, you probably haven't gamed her very well.

The kind of women who love daily contact probably love it because they are not used to male attention, i.e. they are not very attractive. The hottest girls don't want heavy contact from a guy they're not sure they're attracted to.

In the early stages, the more you contact her, the more you risk looking needy. OP's priority is to get physical, heavy eye contact, kiss THEN only get the number to set up Day 2 if same night sex is not an option.

So what would you say to this , I met a girl couple nights ago walking to the store I live jn the city I pulled her back to my apartment complex to the park there got the make out we tongue kissing for about 10 mins she said she had to go back to her house her mom waiting on her she asked my number and said she would text me so we could hang out haven't heard from her since

^^ How is your story relevant to my post??

Send her some funny meme's that you find. It's a great way to get her to think about you, and gives you something to talk about.

the guy was asking cause you originally said to be sexual day 1, but he doesn't say wether or not he tried for a day 2 or any contact he has made. in his case he was physical and feels the girl is flaking on him

I find that whole: 'Date other girls before you date her blabla' just a load of bull. I have girls coming here alot, and I almost always plan a week ahead. I text them sometimes during the week, just to heat it up again or to make them laugh or something to give value. A girl has a lot going for her in a week and many guys who want her, ignoring her for a week is not helping. I ignore a girl for max. 4 days. And they know that it's on purpose, because they can see me online. If you ignore her a week and she doesn't even say anything or show any interest and you want to test her out? Just say something funny or shitty. I always say: 'Oh, about Friday.. you better bring a onesie pyjama, I'm rocking it SPAM style *picture*. Never got a bad response and it makes them look forward to that day in a strange way. Sometimes they even bring their pyjama which is nice.

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My response maybe a little out of topic, but I guess inviting them spontaneously works best. Try that next time.

Anyway...

You should only talking about the meet up on the phone, which should be last for 5 minutes only. Phones are only for inviting to meetup. No more conversation after that. And besides, you dont want to lose your mystery before the date start up.

No texting after that. Create mystery and challenge. And if she text you why you dont text her, just tell that you are busy doing other stuffs. (e.g, cleaning your apartment, repairing your car, feeding your doggy, etc.).

If you really cant handle the temptation, which is I know how it feels, only text her when she text you first. But keep it short and keep her reminded that you are busy.

One day before the date, I suggest no confirmation. If she will meet you, she will meet you. If she's not, then she's not.

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