Hi Guys,

I have number closed an HB8 at a night club, went to a night club had a couple of shots and danced just having fun, asked about 10 chicks to dance irrespective of how hot they were, this girl and her friend agreed we danced for a while pretty close with grinding and everything, i asked her for a kiss she said no, anyway after the dance she said she had to go and left I asked her for her number and she called her phone from mine, she left and then an hour later she texted me gave me her address and asked me to come over but cancelled 10 mins later, I want to know what to do from here? what is the next step, i dont want to just fuck her and dump her But I also dont want to take her out on a 100 dates before i have sex.

Also my approach was simple
walk upto a woman
say hi(to get her attention)
then ask if she wanted to dance

If anyone thinks this was a mistake let me know coz my success rate was very low

Find out her schedule, meet her, and sleep with her ASAP. You don't have to dump er after but if you don't sleep with her right away, you run the risk of her finding another guy to fuck her and lose her all together.

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I texted her , she said hello but after I asked if she had fun last night she dint say anything, I left it at that.

leave it for a week and ask her out to catch up

Thanks...seems about right earlier I was actually thinking of dropping it altogether since she dint respond to my text I thought any further proposals to go out/ or to contact her would only make me look desperate, anyway i think its worth asking her out the coming friday.

I think no mistake there. You had the guts to approach which I think is allways a success. Not building enough comfort/rapport can lead to somewhat low success rate so it comes down to a numbers game. Where did she have to go so suddenly and what was the reason for cancelling? The next step is simple. Leaving it like this for a week is ok, not more I think. Contacting her again after a week might make you look desperate in her eyes, but so what? If so then move on. I think we can be fair to assume that after this point she will not contact you on her own anymore so you pretty much have nothing to loose.

I have read some night game posts which keep saying that 'dont ask for a dance' and my experience kinda backs it up coz i asked 10 girls and one of em said yes

So texted her again yesterday.
Me:Hey
Her:Hello
Me:Do you want to go out tonight?
she asks who is this?
I tell her we met at a club a week ago
she says she remembers now and asks my name (sends a smiley also I am guessing that is good)
I tell her my name
she responds with pleasantries and tells me her name
and says that she already has other plans and can check if her friends would modify them.
I say ok and then she hasnt responded yet.


Now what i understood from this is

She obviously doesnt want me to go away coz her texts dont show any hint of that she even told me her name.

But...she also isnt showing too much interest either

I dont know what to do, I like her and want her but I am starting to look a bit desperate I dont knw what to do next

i don't think asking a girl to dance is a good route to go. One is that she has no attraction to you, which should be the first step in pick up. I used to go night game alot and one time I heard a guy go face up (body pointing right at her), ignoring her friend she was with and asking "you wanna dance", she blew him out and he walked away. I then went in there afterwards and started talking to them about greece. I eventually left but i did talk to them 10 mins longer, and i was pretty bad back then. Anyways it looks like you got your aa under control, try working on your approach now

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This a flake, move on. Learn from it.

To be honest. I think you missed out on fucking her. She booti called you but you didn't see it, she gave you her HOME address lol. She wanted the D. She then maybe felt a little slutty and changed her mind.

The whole asking her for a dance can work. I've seen it work. Much more efficient if you do some pre eye contact stuff before you ask her.

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It was a booty call for sure, but i dont know what i could have done to change her mind....
She called 1 minute asking me to come over then in 5 mins she called back saying dont come, it was out of my hands.

Are you sure about the flake? coz in her text yesterday she told me her name and sent a smiley it dint seem like she wanted me to go away, why would she do that if she wanted me to go away?

and thanks for the encouragement regarding the dance opening I had decided to drop it completely

yeah bro, it's a fake. cut slingload, move on to the next target. sent her a smartass message about how she missed out on the best sex of her life and let her chase you. if she wants you, she will come.

Just a couple of things I would have done differently:

1) I wouldn't ask for a dance. Heck, I wouldn't even dance at all unless I've build some rapport and I really felt like it. I wouldn't ask for anything because it looks weak when I do. For girls to feel comfortable around you, they want to believe that you're not trying to hit on them. As far as they're concerned, you're just a confident, fun guy who's not afraid or shy to start conversation.

2) Something I've learned about texting is that the best text conversations are not about boring small talk. Asking what she did last night is a small talk subject. Instead, aim for something different and interesting. Something that you are sincerely interested in. I usually start my text conversations like this:

"Hey you won't believe what happened to me when I left the club yesterday. It was the craziest thing."

It does a few things:

1.) Reestablishes common ground - You and her both had fun at the club
2.) It makes you stand out - There are countless guys texting her with the same boring BS of "Hey, so how's your day going"
3.) It sparks interest and suspense - "I've never had a girl flake on this text and its a great opener for a rapport rich text conversation.

Try it bro and let me know how it goes