Hello guys,

I have approached an HB8 last month, our interaction wasn't the best but smooth and lasted for a brief 3 minutes (because I had something else to do) it was okay so I asked for her facebook instead of her phone number because It looked like she wasn't going to invest in and a facebook is way safer for her to give than her real number, those avoiding getting a fake one.

I tired to minimize online conversation but teased her and built some attraction then I took her real number, I knew for sure she started to like me, but I didn't called nor messaged her for 3-4 months because I moved to another town.
Two weeks ago she sent me a msg on facebook while I was offline "hey, it's been a long time."
I told her that I moved to X and when I'm going to her town I'll call her to hang out.

So last week I went to her city for work reasons and called her to see her for the first time after the approach, I like to meet girls alone or bring a couple with me, maybe a girl bring her friend and I bring mine, but she asked me to meet her and her friends at a bar but I told her I was busy, The thing is that I am never good at meeting a whole new group of people.

I got a little bit self conscious about meeting her because I had long hair now I don't because I started balding and shaved it. I used to look 1000 times better, but went to see her near her workplace and didn't let my consciousnesses it affect the interaction and tried to be myself and fluent saw her for 5 minutes because I called her like 30min before and was rude to ask her out at that time, she had couple friends with her too.

The night after that I tried to talk to her on facebook, later then realized it was a mistake because I didn't really have a purpose to engage a conversation with her and she responded with one word answers (I don't know about you, but I really find that talking to a girl out of no where and without a reason may make me look like I'm trying to hard) I didn't continue the conversation obviously.

Yesterday she sent me a message again on facebook "Hey there, I'm at (my town) , plan something so I can see you I responded with "Okay, how long are you staying here?" she said sh'll be here for 5 more days.

Well I admit that am starting to fall for her, no girl made me feel that nerves about calling her, meeting her etc... which made feel excited.

So today she was tagged in a picture where she was out with a very good looking guy and 2 other girls at a very popular club, she was giving him "that look" while he was looking at the camera. So what? you may say, I would have said the same but I felt that I shouldn't call her to go ask her out again. But I know I will, I know these little voices in my head are just my fear holding me back, I know I have to beat it and do what I want without avoiding it. But it still feels awful. It sucks.

Don't get me wrong I'm not feeling desperate, and if I do I never let any emotion takes control of me or changes my mood, but the emotion is still there. It's the reason why I'm writing this post.

Before I used to next every girl I felt I was falling for her to avoid oneitis mainly and focus on practicing instead of the outcome. But it gets dull over time, PU changed my life, my personality, my attitude, my self esteem. I've met alot of girls but when recapping I didn't really have a girl to settle with, just random adventurous here and there and gets fewer and fewer because my full time job takes to much time from me.

But this feeling caused mainly by the thought of "She is going out with guys cooler/better looking/richer/more confident than me". You may call it low self esteem I call it realistic self esteem, sometimes I just feel not good enough for a girl even though she thinks I'm a little bit out of her reach and some girls pursue me but once I see her talking/going out/flirting with another guy I try to put him in one category or the other ( Alpha/Beta or safe/threat if you want ) if he's beta I'll feel pity for him being friend-zoned, if he's alpha, well, that feeling again.

I would like to see as much attitudes and point of views about this feeling and having a competitor in the day2's stage when you can't amog him because you only see pictures, calls, message between him and the HB. This is a huge deal breaker and If you feel that my mindset has wrong tuning I will be very grateful to hear about it and your mindset in situations like these.

Thanks,

SeductMe

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

That's a load of cr*p for a few reasons :

- If he is cooler/better looking/richer/more confident than you, if he doesn't know how to game, all that stuff is useless. Check out Tyler's video called ''Tyler's Six Steps To A Consistently Killer Night Picking Up Girls'' on youtube, he explains it clearly

- Guess what, the world is filled with other guys who are cooler/better looking/richer/more confident than you, and however cool/good looking/rich/confident you'll get, you'll always find someone who appears to be better than you. If you don't get off this shitty mindset, you won't do anything. Ever ! Stop hiding behind excuses and get out there !

- She asked to see you --> She's clearly interested and not hiding it very well --> Go for it !

Eviltwin