I've been seeing this girl. I've stayed over at hers three times now over a period of two weeks or so. We have done everything other than sex. I am struggling to f-close and I need help.

She's told me she wants to but is a bit unsure as she thinks it is too soon and is worried that I will just fuck and chuck her. I won't do, she's alright.

How can I go about this?

I tried last night to tease her by fingering her and by escalating sexually but then dropping out, a bit of push and pull. It worked to the extent that she became a lot more evidently aroused but other than that nothing happened.

I had the idea of using a technique Ozzy (RSD) mentioned. The idea is that I say "I am not sleeping with you tonight!" and then just continue to act as if I don't want to.

She will then feel more comfortable and it is more likely to "just happen"

Thoughts?

any ideas?

That is classical last minute resistance isnt it?!

I experienced that so often... A lot of girls have that. That want it to happen but dont want to take responsibility. When she hesitates why escalating, freeze her out. Turn on the lights and pull off her. But dont act annoyed or pissed off. She should get just the feeling that this LMR turns you off. Tell her "it was so emotional but i dont know it is like you pushed a button in me that i dont feel this anymore.." And dont do anything in the sexual direction within in the next minutes. Wait her to come for you. She will try to get you back in a good mood with her. When she comes back you try escalate again and if she again pulls back, freeze her out again. It really works

I feel with you man! Two nights ago i had a girl who literally said "no" all the time during escalation. She even said no when she took off her jeans on her own Also when i entered her she said "no".... I think its hard for the girls because within them its their moral fighting against their lust^^

Hope it helps

Edit: after reviewing my post i want to mention that she was of course wanting to fck. She had a lot fun and we have fcked before. So dont get any rape ideas or so. But this "no" really points out how weird girls sometimes are when it comes to sex.

Cheers

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Definitely what Sky suggested...I was dating a girl for 3 weeks once,and she wouldn't fuck with me cause as she said I was not trustworthy enough...We had done everything(as you) and then she just left...Next time she came at my place,I was escalating things for an hour,she was saying no,until I turned on the lights and told her to get ready,cause I want to go out and have fun...we both got ready and before leaving the house I hugged her from behind,kissed her and got her to sit down next to me,being all sweet and stuff...That's what worked for me,hope it helps you

Nice one guys, I'll certainlly put this to the test. I have already toyed slightly with this technique but not properly as I am a weak horny man.

I'll try the lights thing and then I'll try the going out thing too.

Problems I can see though.

We have stayed at hers mainly and she is yet to stay at mine (she probably will be staying at mine next time though as I said she can come round to mine next time)

At hers turning the light on is good because its a pretty alpha move to do considering its her house.

Problem is that we usually go back to hers after a night out so I can't really say at 3-4 in the morning "right I am going back out!"

I could say I am going to a mates though.

Thoughts?