here is the thing.

I've met this girl I really like and she is nice, I met her twice (not dates), and she is really nice and seems attracted when we meet, but while she is gone, when I text with her (via SPAM), she is different person, more reserved and shit. And I feel like i'm obsessed with her, and if she realizes that I'll scare her away. I was thinking of being honest and explaining it, but I don't wanna do it via texting, and I have no idea what excuse to come up with in order to go out for a drink or something. Should I punish her by freezeing out, like replying late, or my replies to be just casual? Last night i bumped into her, she was excited but was leaving home, while I was going to this bar. What do I do? If i ask her for a drink and she says no, what should i do? We both like football (soccer), should I invited her to come watch a game with me. I don't want to show neediness.

p.s. she is a hb9.

Ask her out on a proper date, not a soccer match. That's something you do with your male friends, not HBs... Treat her well, but don't put her on a pedestal. That will send her running. Act like you come from an abundant life filled with beautiful women. Curb your attraction to her and behave like she's a 7, not a 9... Escalate early on and go for the "kill"... Good luck!

Have you done anything to build attraction at this point? If not asking for a date could be risky. If you like her, ask her on a real date. I wouldn't mind the soccer, It's something different and if I were interested in it I'd be stoked to have a nontypical dinner/movie/drink date. To help with neediness and over texting build a rotation. Even if It's just fodder girls to practice on. Keeps your mind occupied so you're not worried about what she's doing all the time. She could be a rare exception like myself and she's just an awful texter but even still if It's a guy I like I put forth some effort. Good luck!

I like the idea with the soccer match. Because you dont make her the center of your date but the match, which is good. Some girls are cold in texting, thats normal. Why dont try to call her? I mean you seem to have a decent game with her in 1o1 conversations, so go with that. If you think it could be a little awkward to just call her (which i sometimes think) then maybe write her within the conversation "sorry gotta go, i call you later" or "i call you later, your voice is much better than your texts " or something like that. Call her and attract her on the phone which is much easier through enthusiastic voice and funny stories etc.

And after building some attraction on the phone through DHV tell her that she should come over and join you for the soccer match. Tell her to wear something comfortable because you will be in jersey and sweatpants (im not native and dont know the exatct word but these comfortable pants every guy wears to chill out).

All in all be just funny and attractive^^

Hope it helps.

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If she is a HB9 she is probably texting tons of guys who want to fuck/date her as much as you...she replies short on SPAM?Stop that method of communicating...A date with a HB9 that maybe is not attracted enough in you at the current point is not a risk worth taking...As I understood,you have mutual friends,so arrange a night out with them,and her,and try your best to be the spirit of the party.Treat the company as a set,and her as your target,avoiding the cheesy openers and the anxiety of new people.Show her you are the guy she wants to date,that you are something different from Paul she met on Monday or George that approached her yesterday on the club,be the man that she could actually watch football with everyday and then ask her out

Obsession can be a good thing. Tell her that. Call her, she picks up the phone, you say, "Hey, I really couldn't stop thinking about you last night. Which is really odd. Anyway I bought a bunch of corona last night. You should come over and play some monopoly or something"

LOL.

Anyway, you shouldn't think about finding excuses to go out with her. Just be clear and confident about your decisions and tell her you want THIS. And what's this about punishing her and late texts or freeze outs? Why would you want to do that? She didn't do anything to you!

The soccer thing would be cool. Hey, instead of inviting her for monopoly why not say come over to your place to watch soccer? Or if you know a place (and a ball), play with her? That's where you can really kino escalate. It wouldn't really show off neediness unless you're really showing off neediness! I mean come on, you just wanna have some fun. You're bored, you want a buddy to watch soccer with or play with. It'll be fun for the both of you. Why not?

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Hey All,

Thanks you all for the tips. Thing is, something came up I couldn't go for the match even though we kinda planned it.

I will just call her on a date! And see how that's going to turn out!