Guys,

I've just set up drinks at my place with a new girl tomorrow night. She just asked me if it's ok if one of her friends (another girl, not hot) comes too. Annoying!

How should I reply to this? And do you guys think it's a blatant sign I'm on the way to the dreaded friend zone?!

Hey man, I think you are not heading for the slippery abyss of LJBF... you have simply not built yet enough attraction and/or trust for her to come alone... what are your options... you could say:

YES - and you would spend an evening with the two ladies; pros: you appear sociable and casual (tagline "it's no big deal she invited a third party to what was supposed to be our evening") and you have a chance to up the attraction/confidence and next time she may come alone; cons: boring as hell, not to mention the risk of "winning" an enemy, if the obstacle decides you are not cool enough for her GF...

NO - and she could just come alone (it's a risky gambit) or say "forget it"; pros: you earn "macho points"; cons: you could enjoy said "macho points" by yourself drinking a cocktail...

YES with a twist - you invite as well a male friend over; pros: you earn "cool and sociable" points plus your friend (aka competent wingman) handles the obstacle giving you some much needed alone time with your target; cons: I am at a loss here... what could go wrong?

Let me know what you decided and how it turned out... Good luck!

Thanks for your feedback!

I basically didn't want to do the thing at my place if her friend was coming, so the three of us (and maybe some of their other girlfriends who I also know) are all gonna have drinks at a bar instead. It'll be more chilled out, so that works for me. Plus I know some of the barmen in said venue, so might get me a bit of social proof!

I'm not 100% sure, but she SEEMS to like the idea of spending time with me, and she's pretty receptive to my messages/ banter etc. So maybe I'm still in with a shot but just need to build more comfort or whatever!

What do you guys think?

Waste of time to meet up w/ their gf's. You are being evaluated by her friend. A girl won't be nearly as open to kino escalation w/ her friend right there. Meet more girls who are down for 1-on-1 time. Flake on this date and reschedule just you and her. If she insists on bringing a friend, move on.

All of the above in this post is if you are in the game for volume. If you want this girl as a gf or something, that's another story.

Update:

Target just texted me to say that both her & her friend are sick (I THINK this is genuine, as she did mention not feeling great yesterday). Drinks cancelled, which I'm not that bothered about to be honest!

I'll leave it for a couple of days, then text her to suggest drinks. What should I say to make it clear that I'm only interested in us having drinks if it's JUST me and her, without sounding like an asshole? Obviously, if she's not up for that, then I'll next her.

"come to x on thurs. i'll be there"
If she suggests bringing a friend,
"i'm sure your friend is cool but i'd like to get to know You better "
If she doesn't back down, no problem: NEXT!

It's tempting to do it especially if she is super hot but better to stick to your terms (meeting the girls 1 on 1) unless of course she is hinting at 3somes etc. which isn't the case here. It's more often than not a screening interview. Fuck that.

no group dates when you're starting to date. friends are for after.... if a friend is present its sort of an "im not interested but will see you anyways" type of thing, she's bringing a cock blocker on purpose.

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