Today I picked up my kids from their mothers and went by the local mall to do some shopping with them. I went out last night and didn't shower so I had the standard grungy feel. As I was looking at some shoes at Aldo one of the sale girls came by asked me if I needed any help and walked away. Two more girls were standing behind the counter talking and both looking at my direction. One of the girls that was behind the counter came over about a minute after the first sales associate and with a very welcoming smile. She obviously saw that the other girl came over to offer help and she then started asking me specific questions and seemed to start finding things to randomly talk about. She was looking around and started talking about the scarfs they were selling. She could have been a very pushy sales girl but I had a different vibe from her, almost as she wanted me to hit on her.

I felt very awkward hitting on her with my kids sitting behind me so I basically did the whole boring conversation without being edgy. I also felt a little grungy and probably had a greasy shining head so I was little out of my comfort zone. Would you guys have done anything and what would you do to be appropriate in front of the kids but also do something that will draw her in to build some sort of interest.

OK. #1 if you want to get laid always shower and always wear a decent cologne. Women have noses like a dog and smell memories to last a lifetime. #2 You can pickup women in front of your children because they don't know that's what you are doing. You don't approach a woman and say hey "something derogatory" and expect her to make out with you. That's not kid friendly and that's not woman friendly. Trust me kids are not your issue. Remember the first rule of pickup smile and introduce yourself. #2 Capitalize on the sexual energy. Here's a trick I learned tonight to pickup a woman. Ask her a random thought evoking question out of the blue. It literally will tickle her brain. Something like if Oprah and Rickey lake got in a fight who would win? Women have such great imaginations where us men have to visualize so much. Play to their imaginations with funny thoughts and you are in. Only sociopathic sluts will respond to things you can't say in front of your kids.

I would not have done anything in that scenario either. Hired guns are paid to be nice and cordial and overly friendly to you. If it were me I would avoid running game w/ kids around but I don't have kids so it's just an uninformed opinion. Also what the previous poster said about never leaving the house without looking good can improve your success - there are women everywhere you go. Next time you're out, you see a cutie, go up to her and make an offhand comment about something to get the ball rolling with her. If there are sparks you can always introduce yourself and take her #. Enjoy it.

I politely disagree with the advice above.

(And the lack of showering had nothing to do with it. On that topic, while you should always always try to look your best, if you ARE caught out looking disheveled for whatever reason - don't even think about it, and make no excuses for it. You can of course say you just came from work or whatever it was, but don't apologise)

I am 90% certain the first girl was into you, then bailed for being nervous, then she went back to the others to talk about it, and the more stronger one came over to you, because she's tough, either to warm you up for the first girl, or to hit on you herself after telling the others she could do it (but the fact is, it all comes down to the guy). I think your interest should be on the first girl, just to find out what's up, if anything. Because you have your pick of the 3 of them because they were all there in that moment, no need to go for the obvious.

Your kids will be oblivious to what's going on, with the kind of language you'll be using, and the fact is, you better get used to "picking up" with them around, since they are going to be around you a lot, since you're their dad, and that also works in your favor, because a mature man who's good with kids and even slightly attractive is a very rare commodity.

Basically there's nothing wrong with you making the conversation interesting, asking her about herself, looking for shared interests, talking passionately about them, then inviting them out some place that you just "happen to be going to" (whether you were or not), the whole usual thing.

This good kind of attraction building isn't "sleazy" or inappropriate to do around children, hell, I picked up a 21 year old girl while working at a kids party that we were both working at, just by giving her a painting on her arm and having a polite chat with her, then telling her to check out our Facebook page (she was from a different company). Just sounds like polite and friendly conversation.

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Gents, I really appreciate the advice. Thanks for taking the time in writing great responses! I guess when I was out there I was hesitant because I didn't feel my best but also because my style of pick up can be very edgy, and sometimes inappropriate so I didn't want to slip up and say something that would have a negative impact on the kids. Since I was hesitant I became very boring and nothing came out of it.

If you guys were in my shoes, what would be some of the things you would say? How would you conduct the approach specifically with youngins around.