Right, ill try and describe the whole picture in as little words as possible. There's a lot of info I'd like to share just so everyone understands the exact situation.
I never approached, i never hinted any interest in her intentionally. A few hours later, i was chilling in one of the bedrooms having a cigarette and she came through and started chatting with me. Casual, I still didn't give away any IOI's, i wasn't genuinely interested, yet. She asked what i was upto and how i knew everyone at the party, general chat. It was one of my closest friends club night after parties in his place, he's a professional DJ. (Unintentional DHV when i explained that?)
At the party, there must have been at least 10-15 girls there over the course of the first few hours running up and hugging me and kissing me and sharing exciting dialogue! These girls are my closest friends! We're all like a big family! (Is that a second unintentional DHV?)
Back in the bedroom, after about 5 mins of chat, she came over and lay next to me on the bed! There was alot of chemistry between us... I think. Usually i wouldn't have had any confidence problems but its a bit of a tricky situation from my point of view!
Firstly, I learned she works in a lap dancing club as a performer. The DJ's girlfriend is good friends with one of the girls from a club in the city centre. Therefore having instant chemistry with men is essential for her work! So was there genuine sparks or was she just doing what she knows how to?
I think i controlled the direction of most of the conversation. I asked things like 'What would your ideal career be in a perfect world?' if i ran out of casual conversation. Still at this point I wasn't 100% committed to running game. but then i asked to read her palm, I'm reading great book on it at the moment, got every part of her personality correct! Or so she said.
We spoke for about 2 hours, no escalation. I eventually realised i found her Mega Attractive! (I'm not one to use such a scale but for those guys that do id say she was 8+, at least). It was at this point she had to leave, unfortunately for me, and i forgot to get her number. Her friend from work however was still at the party so i asked her for it. No problem! I also asked if the girl i was talking to would mind if i text her, she said no, but just because I've never done that before i was wondering how other guys have approached the text without being creepy?
Only negative was i think i may have offended her by referring to her as a 'stripper' and that i didnt find lap dancing appealing. My exact words were to both girls, talking about guys who visit their club regulary, 'I dont mean any disrespect to you guys, one of my ex's was a stripper, but i dont think i could be one of those dudes, its just never been my thing.'
So i wanted to know what you guys all thought of the situation and what you would do if you were in my shoes? Mostly about the getting her number without her knowledge. Also if you've bothered to read this far I thank you for your time!
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