Hey guys, pls help me out here.
I have a female dentist HB8, who knows me as a patient only. Each time I see her in the clinic,me get a hard on. I want to ask her out to know her more.
My sticking point is how to broach the subject of asking her out in front of her assistants who are always around her.

I get anxious when I want to speak to her.

Any advice?

Possibly tell her & the assistants that you have a slightly embarrassing problem that you'd like to speak with her about privately. Of course the problem is that you want to get to know her a bit outside of the office over a coffee some time but didn't want to embarrass her in front of the assistants.

Before approaching, be fully willing to get a new dentist in case this doesn't work out for one of a million reasons.

I agree with oceanx, sometimes the simpliest methods are the best, just tell her that you would like to talk to her in private but be understanding if perhaps she says no.

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this is very nice. agree with this, especially the new dentist part lol.

Thks guys, I will try this approach and pits my findings soon. I have an appointment to see her on Monday, 23rd dec.
I hope she say yes.
Rigelkent

Not much to lose if you try, but take it even less personally than usual if she says no. If dental school is anything like medical school, she would have been taught that dating a patient, even a former patient, is considered a cardinal, unforgivable sin because of the power imbalance, integrity of the profession (i.e. the board takes their license away), blah, blah blah, so it may be perceived as a huge risk for her. Huge props if you pull this one off.

It's frowned upon. The whole stigma of dating a patient stems from Sigmund Freud and the emergence of Psychoanalysis. That was somewhat warranted given the nature of the doctor/patient interaction. You were dealing with the mind and had sway over the person which could influence outcomes and could allow yourself to manipulate them into some form of sexual relationship. Jung on the other hand had no problem with it. Of course, most of the problem with Freud and his opinion was that he had his own problems too... Infact he wasn't very sexually active which is most probably why he was so insistent on the matter.

As for dentists and doctors the only problem there is the fact that they have access to your medical records so any embarrassing STD or STI you ever had they'll know about.

If you're speaking from experience I'd be interested in hearing if it's different in other parts of the country. In the medical school I'm attending in California, they were pretty serious about making sure we're aware how unacceptable it is. Though I can imagine that a dental patient would be less vulnerable than a hospital patient.

I meant "frowned upon." I changed it just before your reply I believe. It only really violates the ethics code if it doesn't benefit the patient. You're encouraged to end your professional relationship with the patient if you do date them.

The only time you can have your license terminated is if you're a clinical psychologist or a teacher/lecturer. Of course, depending on the severity of the case you can have it revoked if you're specifically taking advantage of men or women under your care and it's clearly not a relationship but no strings attached sex with numerous patients.

I wish I could be there to watch her cringe. What do you do for a living because you sound about 12 years old.

Ask her "Do you have big plans for the weekend?"

By asking her a future orientation question, she'll know what your asking and why your asking.

If She's interested she'll make a statement...I have no plans saturday, sit around the house, I should get out more, etc." That's when you suggest I'm going to do X you want to come with?? Or we should do Y it would be fun.

If She's not interested she'll make a statement...I'm going with my boyfriend to the opera, Me and My finance are going to meet his family, etc. She'll let you know.

It's a much softer way to ask her and much softer rejection if she says no. Either way you win points for being so smooth.

She most likely will say no. I've had the hots for a nurse once before and asked her out, I believe she liked me, but she said no as it would be too weird to date a patient. Of course a nurse isn't a doctor, but it's sort of the same.

I say it's worth a shot, but don't expect anything from it.

Schedule a physical. While she's telling you to cough get her number.

Bad news written all over this one. If she wants to avoid potential lawsuits, she will say no, even if she wants to see you outside the office. If she says yes regardless, this ruins your client-doctor relationship and can make it hard for her to do her job if you two get emotional.

I'd avoid this. Besides, do you really want to date someone who knows about your colon health more than you do?