Just wondering when you guys first ask a girl to go back to your place. Day 2? Later? Is it more of a calibrate to each person sort of situation?

Not really concerned about what to say obviously listening to music or watching a movie is as good a reason as any.

You need "I want to come over" IOIs.

- She lingers after dates wondering whats gonna happen next
- Is happy to learn you can cook (if you can)
- Is responsive to "i love movies, have racks of them at home"
- Is responsive to "i have some amazing speakers at home, makes me think J Dilla is god sometimes" (or whatever you listen to)

If she seems cool with any of these things, she's down. Or she's psycho, and you shouldn't be dealing with her anyways.

Try to frame some things in her mind by talking about stuff like that. Does she like wine?

You can ask a series of questions to check the temp of the water, make sure to do that so you don't get caught in a "wait...no, sorry if I made you think that's what I wanted."

But my gut says that if shes down to hang with you and if shes into you, she'll go.

I can listen to music and watch a movie just fine by myself. If I meet a girl on the premise of attraction, I am having her come to my place because I don't want to put the effort in to take her out on a date and I just want sex.

Stop trying to hide your intentions. If you are out on a date and things escalate to the point of a need for privacy, or you want to end the night with her next to you, invite her back afterwards. If you don't want to make it that serious, then have her over for a movie and escalate there.

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