Hey Guys! So it has happened to me often: I get the girl at the bar or something like that, but I can't go further on the other days. I usually text them on the day after and we chat a little bit, and then I try to arrange something like coffee or whatever. They're usually nice with me(they answer me back and stuff) but most of the times they give some excuse or something like that to not meet up. It happened sometimes already and I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong. I think I'm really struggling to build a connection between us. Any thoughts?


Thank you guys!

The most likely explanation is that you aren't building enough of a connection with them at the bar. Are you making out? Having a deep conversation that lasts hours? Flirting, touching and laughing a lot? Be really honest with yourself here, if they aren't, you are missing something and that's the reason they are flaking.

Next issue, make sure they get your number too, call first don't text. Call once ONLY leave a message if they don't answer.

Give it a day, text "hey! let me know when you want to hang out again. Awesome time the other night!" Something really simple and straight to the point. Make it clear what you want and that you won't chase them.

But yeah, it's probably to do with your game when you are with them. If they want to see you again and you've made it clear you want to see then, they will pursue you.

Ya, I've been through situations when we make out or just have a great conversation, or even both at the same time. When I text I try to be simple and straight to the point too. Thanks for the advice man =) I appreciate it!

+1 for all above. Also work on text game - see the text game thread on this forum that was lead by Don Draper.