New to this site but not to PUA in general, anywho, long story short, I met a girl got a date and the date went great, but I learned that this girl is sexually conservative (probably a good thing). The date went awesome and she text me afterwards asking if she gets another date, I agreed and scheduled another date. In between these dates this girl text me in te morning saying she just wanted to tell me she hoped I had an awesome day and text me again later that night to tell me how excited she was for our second date, so this girl was really all about me right off the bat. Anyway second date at my house we cook dinner alls going great than we lay in my bed and watch a movie and cuddle, I went for the kiss halfway through the movie and we kind of lingered in that half way space for a second than she backed up said "it's only the second date". I backed off and just acted standoffish and she said I think I'm gonna leave I said whys that she said because you're mad at me I said I'm not mad she responded well you won't come cuddle with me so I'm just gonna go, I said "peace" and she clearly got upset and fired back with "really? Peace?" At this point I felt like I was being a dickhead and didnt want to act like the rejection got to me so I made a quick joke and pulled her back in for a cuddle, she kept coming to cuddle with me and kept grabbing my hand to hold it and was locking eyes with me so all seemed fine, after the movie she asked me to walk her to the door and as I did she lingered in the door way and said I had so much fun. Normally I'd go for a kiss at this point but obviously now I'm not gonna, so she lingered for a few more seconds gave me a hug and said you were so fun to cuddle with and held me for a few seconds than lingered around a little more before walking away. So my question is, do you guys think I have a third date or did that awkward kiss moment mess it up, normally after a kiss rejection there's not another date but this girl really lingered around which seems otherwise. And if I do get a third date should I even waste my time? At this point im just backin off till she contacts me. I go to a big college and I've never really been with a nice conservative girl like this, most girls here are, for lack of a better term " hoes". Sorry about how long this post is , thanks y'all.

I think you're fine.

She's clearly attracted and feels comfortable enough to go to your place and cuddle on your bed. I'd call it ASD but you said she was conservative so I think she was honestly nervous to hook up with you. Add the fact that she may have heard stories about you and other girls (perhaps?) so she doesn't want to be "just another girl."

Regardless, she rebounded by sticking around and "lingering" instead of just storming out. A 3rd date should be in the works, but be prepared to test your own patience. But then again, maybe she'll take the lead and initiate the making-out/sex, right? You won't know until the date, so go for it man.

Keep the sexual frame of mind but don't be so overt in wanting to hook up or you'll lose value, in this case. Be the patient one, let her dictate the sexual pace and see where it goes. If she continues to be stingy, then make the decision of whether you want to put in work or move on to easier people.

Good luck, man.

Ry

You definitely have a chance for a 3rd date. Here is where I think you went wrong and need to change for the third time around:

The way I read it, it seemed like you might have acted (unconsciously) butthurt/angry after she rejected the kiss - because clearly your behavior changed after the rejection - eg. you stopped cuddling with her. That shows a weak frame. If she doesn't want to kiss, respect her wishes but don't let it shake you- keep up your game. Persistence is a masculine characteristic. One of me pet peeves is guys who insult an unimpressed girl and then storm off - it makes you look like you're throwing a tantrum. Now, I know you weren't doing that here, but it seems you passive-aggressively blew her off completely after rejecting the kiss. If it happens again, smile at her and say something like "whoops, got carried away" before backing off. Eventually, when she feels comfortable + seduced enough, you'll get what you want.

Another thing to definitely not do is to be overly apologetic the third time around. What happened happened - you are a man and do not get shaken easily - stay the course.

Good luck man

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