| Ok so long story short, I'm pretty incompetent when it comes to ladies. I’m in college and am probably average/above average looking. In the past I never really asserted myself but have brushed up on my skills/confidence and have noticed things are getting better. I’ve also lost a bit of weight which has helped.
Last week. At a friends house, just us guys and half of them went to grab some stuff from the store and were gone forever. I was convinced girls weren’t coming so I decided to get plastered with a friend (ie like the two of us killed a bottle of whiskey in 40 minutes). As you can imagine we got pretty wasted and did a couple minor stupid things.
Then some girls did show up, like 3 or 4 of them. None were breathtaking but I talked to the most attractive one (who was also my “type”) and we hit it off so to speak. Well damn did we because the next thing I remember is being in bed and her undressing while telling me to take my clothes off (my friends were bewildered and a little pissed but happy for me, since they put me to bed b/c they thought I was gonna pass out).
So boom we hooked up. And I thought that would kinda be the end but then she woke me up in the morning for round two. Awesome haha. And then we kinda talked for awhile that morning (yes I’m awkward like that).
So after talking with my friends (who were still like WTF) they were worried that she might become clingy based off of some of the things she said/acted. I checked her twitter the next day (I don’t follow her) to see if there was anything like ‘OMG biggest mistake’ lol and it seemed normal, seemed positive. She liked pictures from that night on facebook and a couple days later added a picture of me and her. The next day after hooking up she was tagged in something like “girls night in/boy problems” with a couple of her friends so I was probably brought up in some way or form then.
So I’m thinking she is definitely into me. And what do I do? Get a haircut that I don’t like/too short so I don’t like how I look and sit on my hands and do nothing with respect to contacting her.
And then a couple days later it appears she’s cooled off on me by her subtweets which I’m assuming were directed at me. It was a chain convo but it was attached to an article that was saying the 7 guys you’ll meet and hook up with in college and she was saying that she thought “he” (me?) was a “husband/dream guy, one that makes you want to get in a relationship” blah but now she thinks he(me?) is just a “bro, why did I ever sleep with him, seems like a tool”. Or something along those lines. Aka not positive.
So after seeing that I messaged her on facebook (see it happened so fast, I don’t even have her number haha) just asking whats up, since I’m the guy and have to initiate the conversation. Convo was not fluid, ie long gaps of time and she had a couple questions for me but the conversation died/was never that long.
So yeah, pretty much thinking that I blew it. I’m not that upset since it happened so fast/she never meant that much to me (not even trying to be a dick here, not like I was emotionally invested in her). And hell I got laid so who am I to complain.
But I am wondering what my next move should be, if any at all (just let it go?). Honestly I would like to get to know her better and having a FWB thing would be awesome. Not really looking to date but we were hitting it off/really similar personalities, so it shouldn’t be completely ruled out. Though she definitely seems a little wild but she was also the best I’ve ever had.
Basically, I don’t want to see it end like this and was wondering what the hell I should do next. We are in the same major and same smaller learning community. Aka this is potentially going to be an awkward one night stand haha. I am a year ahead of her though, so it’s not like we will have many classes (likely none) together. But still we are both involved in the school and what not.
Yeah and here is where it gets tricky. I leave town for the summer in like 5 days. I’ll be back in like 2.5 weeks. I was thinking of trying to rekindle something then (in the middle of August) since it seems like things have really “cooled” down anyway so to speak. But should I try to do something within the next couple of days? I was gonna try and ask her to grab food with me last week but the conversation kind of died.
And bear in mind I don’t even have her phone number lol.
So yeah, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. As you can tell, I am pretty clueless haha.
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