| Hi guys,
Went on a “day 2” (or “day 3”) with a girl last week after originally having Facebook “poked” her & met up with her briefly in a bar. After a few messages back & forth, SHE said she wanted to go and eat crepes. I know restaurants aren't normally a great idea for a “day 2”, but in an attempt to DHV, I suggested that instead of going for crepes, we go to a really great restaurant in town, the owners of which are friends of mine. She seemed delighted by this idea, so it was duly arranged!
She travelled for an hour on the bus to come and see me, despite claiming to be super busy. She said she wanted to “make time for me.” She dropped some not so subtle hints about not having a place to sleep, so we arranged for her to sleep at my place. So she came to leave her things at my place and have a drink before the meal.
The drinks and the “date” itself were GREAT! We had lots to talk about, no silences, lots of laughing, jokes, banter! When she went to smoke, she asked me if I wanted to go outside with her, but I hesitated and said no, as I wanted to make sure our food didn't arrive without us, and I also struggle going upstairs! Error on my part?! Then when she came back, everything continued as normal, still great. I paid for her, which could be seen as AFC! But I GENUINELY wanted her to enjoy the evening without worrying about cost, especially as she's a student and therefore on a tighter budget than myself. She offered to pay her half. I said it was up to her and I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable, but that I would like to pay for her, as it was a genuine pleasure for me to do so. So I paid and we walked back to my place. As I walk on crutches, she linked my arm, as she said she wanted to walk close to me or whatever.
When we got back, we carried on talking, laughing joking, some “light” kino (touching her arms, hands, face, hair) then got into my bed, both in our underwear. I even jokingly slapped her ass at one point. She laughed, didn't object or anything. I went to kiss her goodnight when we were both lying in bed, but she didn't let me! WTF?! I got a kiss on the cheek and then a hug the next day as we said goodbye as I took the bus to the airport. She carried my bag, helped me on to the bus with my crutches etc...
Now we're gonna be in different countries for 2 months. She says she wants to see me when I'm back in town, as she kept saying how I'm a really great guy and she's so happy that “fate (and Facebook pokes) brought us together!” We've exchanged a few messages since being apart. She claims she took a little longer replying to one of them, as she didn't want to appear clingy.
So, all in all, it was GREAT but WEIRD! She gave me what I THOUGHT were SO many hints, flirting, etc, but then I didn't even get a kiss! She's also quite religious, so is she genuinely interested and just wants to take things SUPER slow? Or am I just being “politely” friend zoned?
I should also add that if/when we see each other after the summer, it will only be for a few days, as she's leaving for a year abroad as part of her studies. Should I just forget it? Even if I do let this one go, I'd be genuinely interested to get your thoughts on this whole situation!
Sorry this was long!
Cheers guys!
Stringfellow
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