So I’m going to be honest with myself and you strangers because I would like some honest help/advice. I am a guy who can meet a girl no problem, build attraction and than get her on a date or back to my place but I just can’t seem to seal the deal. I make out even get to second base but I just can’t seem to close the deal or get them to date me regularly.
This hasn’t always been the case last summer I dated a girl for a while and we broke it off a few months ago I wanted to be single for a while since it was so serious. Now that I am dating I seem to be good at everything but the forth quarter of the big game. In the last 6 weeks I have been on four dates with four different women and had two come back to my place only to mess around a little but they don’t want to see me after (6 different woman, one for every week.) I realized that I come off a little too like a “nice guy” and the sad part is I’m not this way in my hearts of hearts. I just seem to be because I am in a self inflicted dry spell I’m desperately trying to get out of quick. I don’t know what it is. Any tips? I get oneitis with every girl and it’s intense yet last only for a brief time. It’s sad because the girl will be crazy about me but than one meeting or evening later nothing. No interest.
This last Saturday I met a woman we made out at the bar I brought her back to my place we talked all night and I took her home in the morning. I could tell she was a lot more distant in that car ride, not cold but you know sobering up haha. I texted her later the next day “here is my number now, but you can only call me up to ten times a day.” She responds 5 hours later with “You as well. I’ll take that as a joke.” That was Sunday today is Wednesday, I called her last night around 7:30pm and left her a voice message just saying “hello, give me a call back.” Now radio silence… What’s the deal?

That's the problem, she was willing to give herself to you and you didn't take her, you rejected her. I've done this before with a HB9 who really liked me. She never did give me a second chance at it. Never ever have I talked to a girl all night again without anything else in between.

Also you say you get oneitis with every girl. I guess a lot of people go through that at some point, but you have to be aware of your behaviour while you're feeling that way. Don't act beta/afc on your dates and you'll get second dates.

Thanks! I really have been kicking myself all week over talking all night like a drunken prom queen haha. But, the good news is, like you, this will never happen again. The problem too is that, like you, she was really into me so I thought she was special which was a mistake I should of stuck with the plan.

As far as second dates, yea man I need to realize I get too excited about the upcoming date than I should.

It's funny three months ago I started working out on a regular basis and if we made a chart. My weight loss is directly related to my woman (dates and such) in my life going up. I just need to FC to get over the dry spell so i can relax. I'm going to make it happen. Be cool.