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Hey PUAs! I need advice!
I'm a 25-year-old female PUA in training. I found out about this community a couple of years ago and was interested and read the Game and watched Mystery's TV show and all that, but didn't really even think I might use this stuff myself. But last month this topic came up again and I started doing research on it as an art project (I'm an artist) and as a performance, me and my artist friend who I'm collaborating with made this video work dealing with this stuff and at the opening we also made a performance where we used Neil Strauss's Annihilation method to approach people. I wasn't expecting it to actually work, but it totally did, for everyone I approached!
Then yesterday I went out to a friend's birthday party and after that to a bar where I got to talking more with this girl who had also been at the party. Used some push-pull and negs and a little bit of some kino stuff, and she was totally into me. She actually made it super clear, she basically said "I like you, do you like me?" and then kissed me. And we made out a bit in the club but also outside afterwards. Then she suggested we go to her place, but I kinda declined. It was partly because I didn't want to take it too fast, but mostly because I was nervous because I've never REALLY been with a woman before, just kissed and fondled each other a bit (I'm bi). But I think I really like her, we had a lot of things in common and common interests and she was really pretty.
We exchanged numbers, but because I kinda freezed her out at the end of the evening, I feel like now the ball's in my court and I don't know what to do. But at the same time I feel like I displayed too much interest when the kissing started. Like before that I played it very well, but at that point when she was saying she really likes me and thinks I'm gorgeous, I melted and got too easy and gave her compliments etc. too, made myself seem too eager maybe. But then again, I DID freeze her out at the end, so I guess there was both push and pull.
What would be a nice funny way to ask her out and not have it be an awkward basic date? I can sometimes get quite socially awkward and blank out on things to say, I don't want that to happen. How do I approach her now?
Firstly, lose the "date mentality" make it a hang out.
Physical interest has already been indicated, you don't really have to do anything out of the ordinary. Just ask her to hang out, make it comfortable and keep it fun and friendly. The attraction will come back once you are face to face.
You only need to concentrate on game when you haven't yet achieved a set attraction level, you already have this with her. The most important thing at this moment is to make it comfortable for her. The rest will fall into place.
Message her as you would any of your female friends, the less you are concerned about the outcome the easier it will flow.