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Three weeks ago me and two friend of mine went to a vacation. We had great time and I managed to #close this girl. It all started at the first evening (sunday) when we went out to this bar. I immidiatly went in to the rest room and in the meanwhile they sat down. when I came back I see them sit next to two girls. One is HB8 and the other is HB7.
we sat for a while and drank alot. It turned out that one of my friends know HB8 from work and didnt want to "go for her", so I did. We talked as a group with big open converstions, we were socializing you can call it. I gave her few negs here and there untill we moved to another palce. This place was better because here we could sit next to each other and not infront of each other. Now I could kino escalate. We kept on talking starting to go into comfort phase. One of the things I clearly remmember is that she said she didnt like massages so I gave her one and I could see she enjoys it. I think it was kind of shit test to check what will I do. We ended up exchanging numbers.
I texted her goodnight and she replied back. we kept talking the whole week (she left monday morning) texting, phone calls etc.. when i came back home on friday I gave her a call and talked for a bit and asked if she wanted to meet up.
She said no, that she is sorry and she didnt know why she didnt end it earlier. She said she just came out of unhealthy relationship and that she needs some time alone. We ended it nicely.
Last sunday (a week and a half a go) I texted her: "I thought about it and im not willing to give up that easly". she said she doesnt know what to say and we shoudnt even try. I told her she needs to say nothing and we should meet up and talk face to face like normal people. she said ok.
That was our last interaction for almost a week (friend advice, dont ask why) untill I texted her last friday.
Up untill today we texted on and off. she responds but isnt initiating anything. Im home thursday to sunday and I really want to see this girl.
I know you guys gonna say I blew myself off with that needy text but it was real. I felt I had to do it.
I relly need your advice on how to take it from now on. my strong point arebeing 1X1, building rapport and comfort so I shoudnt have any trouble after meeting up with her.
thanks
rhin0ceros
Ok, rhin0ceros, you have a strong point here with your one-on-one, you are getting much further than most guys (as witnessed by your AFC friend who wouldn't chase the HB8). But we all have strong and weak points, and you clearly need to work on your text game. Fortunately, this is fun, and people on this site like Slipknot and others can give you good advice.
Be aware that this girl has already tried to put you into the friendzone, and you're in a difficult spot. So I would suggest you make this one a "learning experience" even while you maintain a mental and emotional disconnection from the result. How do you do this? Get going after other women... get on Plenty of Fish and start banging down doors... you'll have a great time learning how to email/text all the women on this site. And you might get laid.
In the meantime, with HB8, keep up the messaging, but start using Cocky and Funny (yes, David DeAngelo again, but it REALLY works). Like "Hey, I know you're trying to friendzone me, but you won't be able to! Want to know why?" and then when she responds (doesn't matter really how she responds, positively or negatively) reply "I OWN the friendzone... I bought it for cheap last year before all the nice guys got tossed into it. And I have a secret backdoor key that never fails". See where I'm going? You can figure out how to extend this joke (and have it be light and funny with this girl, don't get heavy on her, remember this is just practice for you). If she starts responding positively, start being dominant and telling her (again, with humor) how/when she's going to meet up with you and how much she's going to like it.
Cheers, ~50
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