Broke up six months ago, she contacts me about once every two weeks, mostly dumb questions about how I am doing which I usually ignore. This week, she calls me out of nowhere, I'm kinda interested so I pick up. Convo goes like this:

Me: "Hello?"
Her: "Haha hey!" (nervous laughter)
Me: "Whats up?"
Her: "I just wanted to call you cuz I was thinking of you cuz Ive been doing blah blah"
Me: "Ok, well I'm in the field right now so let me call you later or something"
Her: "No thats ok, just wanted to say hi!"

End of conversation. Kinda pissed that I said i would call her later, and then she shut it down...I had no intention of calling her later, I just wanted to get off the phone.

Then she texts me --

Her: "Sorry I dont know why I did that, I just felt compelled to call"
Her: "It was good to hear your voice though"
Me: "I understand, I'm very compelling"
Her "Haha..." Then she launches into like a three paragraph message reminiscing about one night she was at my house up late doing work. I don't respond.
Her: "Okay haha, I guess you dont remember that"
Her: "Can you actually call me tomorrow, theres something I want to talk to you about."
Me: "I remember, what do you want to talk about?
Her (like 36 hours later): "I've just been getting really nostalgic recently cuz Im about to graduate and its been making me really sad that we were together for so long and were so close and I now have no idea whats going on in your life"
Me (next day): "Ok, for every snapchat you send me of your boobs, you get 15 seconds phone conversation. Deal?"
Her: "Oh how lovely"
Her: "I can't believe you would say that to me hahaha"
Me: "I'm waiting"
Her: "oh stop"
Her: Some more bullshit about her life, she sends me a picture of me and her together that she had saved on her phone, then tells me how her family was talking about me at dinner.

I have no intention of getting back with this girl as I'm moving about 2,000 miles away in two weeks. No contact definitely works as you can see here, but does she actually miss me or does she just want to see if I will pad her ego? I'm actually going to the same function as her next weekend by chance (she doesn't know this -- I'm not going to see her, its just an event for our school, I'm an alum) Can i spin this into a revenge bang when I see her if I play it right? I won't be upset at all if it doesnt work, would just be nice.

Yup she wants the D.

If you want the P.

Then invite her over. Says no?
Who cares?

We don't live in the same town. This function next weekend will be my only shot for the next three years. Being a distant dick to her phone communication has worked real well, wondering how if i should play it the same in person? I'm not convinced she wants the D, shes real insecure and I think she just wants to see if Im still interested. But maybe im jaded after being dicked around by her for 3 months post-breakup

It sounds like she's really insecure, and that a lot of her actions can be explained by that. You've picked up on this too.

Personally, I'd reframe things. I like to stay FAR AWAY (I mean, 10,000 leagues far away) from any kind of anger towards women... I don't want them to have that kind of control over me, and I don't want to be the kind of person who relates to others out of anger.

I'd put the situation in the following frame (even if I have to force the frame a little to eliminate negativities): This girl and I had a strong relationship for quite some time, and it was great while it lasted. I like her, I hope she does well in life, but I don't want her back in my life as a girlfriend.

However, if she wants to be with me one last time, for making love and letting her feel what it's like to be in my arms again, I'd be happy to give her that gift. I'd be super caring about it... It'd do my best to make her feel good and valued. I'd give her the best sex she's had since she left me. I'd tell her how wonderful she is (maybe I'd have to make this part up, lol...) and I'd tell her I want her to have a happy life, and that I hope that this last time together will give her good memories she can take with her into the future.

BUT I would make it very clear, both before and after the sex, that there would be no follow-up... I'm moving thousands of miles away and we aren't going to be staying in touch. If she still wants to make love, I'll do my best to make her happy while we do it. She just has to accept the situation and make her own choice.

Well, that's just my way of dealing with it... I wouldn't want to have a damn thing to do with revenge, though, that stuff's poisonous and makes you feel less worthy after you've achieved it. Plus you've hurt someone who's clearly in a very sensitive spot in her life... why do that?

That's my take on things, for what it's worth.

Cheers, ~50

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