Been doing fair bit of approaches recently, however I am having trouble closing: usually ask for a coffee/hang out.

Get one of two responses:
a) got a bf - i tell them just want to friends (get her to hook me up with some other girls)
b) her ph number - so far 5/5 have given me fake numbers (guessing they want to get rid of me)

So, my question is what's the best way to tell them you're interested but not commit straight up? I was thinking of email but just wanted to see if someone else faced similar problems here.

Alright so imma be honest, I feel that you are probably approaching the situation wrong. Obviously you open and get far enough to number close so you're doing something right but from the little information that you gave I'm guessing you are putting too much pressure on them for a day 2, so they either lie or give a fake number.

If it were me (ive never been given a fake number and i get 4-5 numbers a week just from normal interactions) I wouldn't ask for a day 2 or a coffee hang out later. I would make up some bullshit reason for asking for their number based on the situation, or maybe not even give a reason at all. Like if you're in class ask for a number so you guys can exchange notes if someone misses lecture. Or just find some way to relate it to the conversation. Make it seem really natural. And don't ASK for their number...TELL them to give you their number. Be like "lemme get you're number" instead of "uhh can i have your numbr plz??"...it makes u more dominant like and seem like its expected of her.

Yea i think the coffee thing is really killing it aye.
Sound advice, i will try think of something or just get their ph.

I have been going for an opinion opener or just a question. I have asked for directions
and many time we had a walk. I just go for, want to see you again. What's your number?

As you can see, I am putting some context behind it and justifying why they should give me the
info. But I will try your way and report back

Cheers for the advice

heres what i do as an "excuse" to get numbers

if i'm at school i'll say "i can tutor you in a certian subject, or if shes better i say, you should tutor me, let me have your number..."

if i'm at parties my music usually comes up and i'll either be freestyling, or spittin some writtens and i get numbers just because i'm soo alpha in that situation i'll be like "lets go to my studio some time"

if its anywhere else "at the mall, parks, my job, her job etc... just bail once the convo has gone on long enough and say "i gotta go but you seem fun, can i have your number?" i have never gotten a fake number by doing these things, just the "i have a boyfriend" line from time to time

You don't need an excuse to get numbers. That's full on chode. You are a man. Women don't have coodies. It's okay to desire them and to act upon that desire.

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