I've been doing a decent job texting this girl. Not sounding needy, being cocky funny. The day I text her to ask her out for a few drinks, she seemed very dull(lacking laughter, !, and emoticons). Anyways, she responded with the following after I asked her to meet up with me.

Her: I'd say yes, but I have a welcome home dinner for a cousin. Just got home from Afghan.

Me: That's cool. <<<< I royally farked up here, b/c I wanted to add. "I understand". It was too late, b/c she responded with...

Her: Some other time.

I didn't respond after that and the afc inside of me felt like an ass. Anyways, move on or should I still pursue this?


If you guys need more context, then I'll be more than happy to PM. For some reason, I'm paranoid about this being googled.

I just want to learn from my mistakes.

Thank you!

Anybody?

Any input would be nice. Thanks!

1) Did you try to ask her out the same day you sent that text or were you setting something up for a future date?

If you did ask her out the same day you sent that text then she could legitimately be busy since it was on such short notice and may have been a miss step on your part for not giving her more time by just asking "how her availability is looking so far", you then follow up with "I can't do this day and that day blah blah" just so you don't look like your completely there waiting for her hand and foot and are a busy guy with a full life (even better for you if you legitimately are a busy guy with a full life because she'll be more attracted to you). If she likes you enough she might forgive that miss step and suggest a better date/time.

Now, If you've been doing pretty good texting back and forth (getting her to laugh, cocky funny, showing your wit and charm, that you're interesting and different, not being needy etc...) and she suddenly becomes cold that could very well just be another test to see what you do.

You could either act non-chalant about the whole thing and not respond after her initial decline/excuse. If you've established some routine of texting everyday, maybe don't respond at all to her for a day or two and see if she says something and messages you to reschedule.

Now, if I was in your shoes and she gave me that first message about dinner with her cousin etc...I would've

1) Not responded for a bit to build tension (make her guess if you're upset or not) and see if she reschedules.

2) Turn it around on her and use cocky/funny or something witty. Usually it would be along the lines of showing that your not phased by it, and then just telling her to stop being silly. So a response to the first message might be something along the lines of:

"Well just tell your cousin that you have a once in a lifetime opportunity to meet this amazing person...I'm sure he'll understand if he's a stand up guy and all"

May not say that exactly but it's pretty blown out of proportion and obviously your saying it "tongue in cheek" and it shows you're not phased and you have a cocky/funny tone to the message. She may have sent a text back laughing and agreeing to meet up or she'll laugh and reschedule with you or maybe say something subtle suggesting for you to suggest rescheduling.

As for her saying "some other time". That's pretty much her cutting off the conversation. You could either not respond or honestly find another witty way to do cocky/funny and see if it hooks.

Hope this helps. Let me know how it goes. If it's done it's done, just move on and learn from it.