I'm trying to figure out how to handle this situation. A girl from Starbucks gets her Co worker to ask for my number for her, I give because she was what I call a sleeping Beauty. As I was out with another girl later that night the girl from Starbucks text me. We had a light conversation and I never heard from her again.


This past Monday I see her at the club I work at we end up dancing and leaving to go hangout at hookah place. On the way home we talk and she speaks on her past relationship and why shes single (seemed like one night stand subtext) It was 6 in the am and I was way too exhausted to put on a worthy performance plus I like her more for than just that. We've been all over eachother until she ask how old I was and when she found out she was a few years older she kind of put up a wall. I tell I've dated women older than her and she said I seemed mature. Any who, she drops me off and heads home.

I text her and she replied with a smiley face, I reply asking what she was up to and got nothing. I'm lost.

None of this means anything. It is impossible to decern anything of meaning from what people do or say. I see so many posts here about "what did this mean, or what did that mean, or does she like me" -- no one knows, no one can know.

It is better to focus on developing a lifestyle that gives you MANY opportunities than it is to obsess over whatever few opportunities are currently presented to you. Focus on that, and you will be fine.

You have a good point. Thanks.

Let me explain it like this. As a guy, we are looking for any girl who will like us. At least any girl of a certain quality. Doesn't matter who she is or what she does, if she's a 7 or higher, we'll fuck her. That's just how most guys operate.

As a woman, they are looking for any excuse to NOT like a guy. Because they typically have tons of guys who are interested in them. Guys will overlook things like her being a little chubby, working as a lowly waitress, or having two kids. But women will take one small imperfection about a guy and use that as the sole reason to never talk to him again, even if it's not even a real problem.

So what? You're a few years younger than her. That means nothing. But to this girl she probably has some fanciful notion that some older guy will be taking care of her for the rest of her life and since you can't possibly be that person, she's done with you. That's the reality of how women think.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

So with that being said, is there a way I can get her to quit thinking about age? I'm mature and have things going for myself and am independent. So what does age have to do with anything?