Just wondering if you guys could give me some help. I went on 2 first dates last week. In both cases I had met the girls in a bar and prior to the 1st date they were responsive to texts, usually within an hour or so.

Both dates went well and we kissed at the end.

With the first girl who I went out with on Wednesday I sent her a "had fun tonight, hope you got home safely" message at the end of the night. She responded Thursday morning "thanks so much for drinks, a really cool, had fun!". I then messaged her on Friday afternoon "Hi, so how did your interview go?" and she responded the next day at noon "went well, getting a job wasn't that hard!" I called her on Sunday around noon and briefly spoke to her. She was having lunch and the phone got cut-off. I tried calling her back but she didn't pick up. So then on Sunday night I messaged "Hope lunch was good. Are you around the beginning of the week? Let's go to all star lanes". It's now Monday evening and she hasn't responded.

WIth the second girl, I took her to the park and for drinks after on Saturday afternoon. We ended up making out. Today around 3pm I sent a "Hey, was nice seeing you again. What's your schedule like this week? We should go to that sushi place I mentioned." She hasn't responded yet although her I can understand more cos she's a student and busy during the day and has only been a few hours.

This is becoming a real sticking point for me - getting the second date. Perhaps I'm showing too much interest? What would you do differently? And is there anyway to change/rescue the situations?

THanks.

Pffff, you did well. By the sound of this story you were entertaining, maintained contact without forcing yourself unto them too much. Plus you dated two girls at the same time which reminds me of . . . Well . . . Myself. Which is always a +1 in my book because if there were any better things to do than the things I do, I would be doing them already.

But aside all craziness if these girls don't bother to text back or even pick up the phone, what the fuck can be done about it other than you hunting other girls who do show active interest and not investing too much time and attention in the rest. That's really the bottom line.

Also you didn't nearly provide sufficient specific data about the meetings for anyone to reasonably say: "Ah, that's where you really came off as a bizarre psychopathic masochist."

Thanks for your response Mr Marville, appreciate. I was speaking to one of my friends and he said a good message to send after a few days would be "Hey X, was nice spending time with you. Would've liked to get to know you better but seems like you're not keen?"

I understand this might show a bit of neediness, but it also seems like a good way of cutting through the games, removing doubt and establishing where it's at.

Yep. It's always better to press than to do nothing in case of hesitation. 9 out of 10 times the press will result in a denial of interest but it's that 10% chance you're after. Game is a number's game.