There's a HB that I've known for a while. Back when I was in another relationship she would IOI me every now and then, but I never really bothered / responded. Now when she found out I broke up with my ex she was giving me really strong IOIs ("so i heard you're single again - so what are you gonna do about it? ", "you know, you and i should get drunk 2gether sometime, you know JUST the two of us", later that night she was also complementing me about me smile). Sadly, I didn't exploit that situation but instead ignored her approaches quite bluntly (I guess I was a little overwhelmed + I naively thought I could easily get with her some time later after looking for other chicks).

Anyway, after some time had passed i thought i could subtly get on a date with her. So I casually stopped at her work two times to "stop by" while being on the way for something else. Although she was really happy that I came by, she blocked all my attempts to establish a flirt - very inconsistent with her previous behaviour, so i didnt find the right hooking point to ask her on a date. I wanna give it another shot, though.


My question to you guys:
What's the reason for her change in attitude? Is it revenge for that I had rejected her at first? Does she want me to be more direct/aggressive? Or did she simply lose interest?

She's gone to her hometown now for vacation. My plan is, after she comes back, to ask her to come to a bar to meet with some friends (who will all "coincentally" have cancelled last minute, which will leave only the two of us). While she's still away I thought about texting her something casual that will reinforce her good feelings for me. Any ideas for something short and smart?

No. That idea about inviting her out to hang with friends who "coincidentally" cancel at the last minute is creepy and weird. Don't do that.

The reason that she acted different at her job could be for a few reasons. First of all, where does she work and whats her work environment like? Because its possible she just didn't want to flirt with a guy in front of her coworkers or her boss.

If that's not the case, then she probably didn't flirt because it weird that you pretty much blew her off in the past, but now you want to flirt with her. That sends the signal that you just want to get laid. So, you have to qualify her express REAL interest in her. Tell her things about her that you like. You can even make it seem like its something you're just now discovering. No girl (except for girls who just really wanna get laid really badly) wants to go on a date with a guy who they don't think actually likes them for some sort of real reason.

Express real interest in her. Give her reasons why you like her other than her looks and then get her on a real date. No need to do any covert sneaky weird shit.

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ok, so at her work there were no coworkers or boss around, only some customers once in a while (though she's definitely not the type who is uncomfortable flirting while other people are around). you must be right then, it probably goes back to my behaviour in the past.

what would you say is the best way to express real interest in her before i actually ask her out on a real date? (as she is really busy lately it won't be so easy to get in touch casually). phone/facebook texts? meeting with friends? and how frequently?

i was also wondering at what stage it would be helpful to start making dirty jokes / sexual related talk. she generally likes it and does it all the time. however, with respect to the past events i thought that might be counterproductive now.