Hello. This is my first time posting here, but I need help guys.

A little backstory. I was talking to this girl, got her number and other things. She was hesitant to hang out with me originally because she's not used to meeting "such good guys" and other things. But, with some coaxing, I got her to meet up with me and our first date went extraordinarily well. k-close (I think is the term on here?) and more, etc etc. Before I said farewell for the night, I asked if she wanted to hang out again, and she said "soon."

A few days pass by, and I ask her if she wants to go out again, and she's back in the mood of having reservations about seeing me. I was supposed to go have a daylong date with her today, but then today she texts me that today isn't good for her. There is some further backstory about her past (which isn't so great) and her wanting to date someone with a past like hers.

So what can I do to make her want to go out with me again? I'm kind of worried I've lost this one, which is a shame because I really like her.

Happens.

For instance I had this girl who was originally into me then kept flaking. However I was dating some others at the same time so didn't much care. Nothing followed from our date. But later I had more time and asked her out again, she kept flaking. Then I wrote an elaborate email pointing out her way of dealing with people was immature, unreliable and a bad mark for her character. I argued these points very much into depth.

Did it help? No. But it's good not to let things slide. Be the change you want to see in the world, and more of that crap.

That's the thing, you can't really reason with someone as to why they should like you. That doesn't mean you can't change their mind and get them to like you. But that is not done by reasoning with them and convincing them that they should continue seeing you. In fact, attempting to do that makes them like you even less, because it comes across as desperate and needy. Generally you just soft next them and game other girls and try to make them jealous and freeze them out. It usually won't work and won't matter to them, but they didn't like you anyway.

The worst thing you can do is fixate on one girl and get all bent out of shape when she doesn't respond to you favorably. You have no control over whatever decision she has made about you. You can influence it, but you can't change it entirely. I think that a lot of girls thought I was decent, kinda cool, not half bad....but at the same time felt that they could do better or that something just wasn't right about me. There's nothing I could do about that. A leopard can't change his spots. So I had no choice but to move on. That's life.

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Hesitant to hang out because you’re "such a good guy" screams to me that you're coming on to strong. Makes you look inexperienced and have a naive understanding of relationships. She's treating you with kid gloves.

If she says it again lol at it. Like "That's what you think, but you don’t even know. Sooooo naive (joking)" Or give her a shit test. Ask her to qualify it. Say "I'm too nice?" but with your eyes say "I'd like to see you try and explain that one dude."

She has a past which isn't so great and she wants to date someone with a past like hers... Read between the lines. What do you see?