Hi guys,

My first day out doing day game I talked to 4 girls, and number closed an 8.5. I'm pretty chuffed about this because my game is generaly pretty shit. Been texting her for the past five days. She was going to come out on friday night on her own to meet me and my mates and go out with us but she canceled because she was tired and had work at 8 the next morning. And then I asked her the next day to some out but she said she was ill. This was probably actually because she was intimidated...I'd only talked to her in person for 10 mins and she hasnt met my mates so it's understandable. But our texts our good...teasing each other and she seems keen.

Problem 1)
So now we're going for a coffee tomorrow afternoon. How do I progress things in this situation? I thought I'd just carry on teasing her, being funny to keep her attracted and just generally chat to build comfort. But its a coffee, so its not like Im gonna go back to hers straight after and get down to some funny business.

I was thinking maybe have a coffee with her and then tell her I want to do some shopping see if she wants to come with me and help me out a bit. This would be a good way to spend a bit more time together, then I'll see if she wants to go for a drink, either after shopping or another day.

Is there any way to go back to hers in the same day without resorting to getting her drunk? Building massive attraction by teasing and turning the conversation sexual is what I am thinking of but I'm not good at turning things sexual.

Problem 2)
However, I am concious of not wanting to lead this girl on though, and don't know how to build attraction and comfort with leading her on. Also perhaps going shopping with her is leading her on a bit? I don't want a relationship and don't want her to think that I want a relationship. Ideally I want to be fuck buddies, and failing that I want to just have sex with her, and failing that we can be friends. But I don't want a relationship.

I'm thinking that maybe I can bring up my ex, and then if she asks ahy we split up I can say that I'm just too young to be in a relationship and don't want that level of commitment at the moment. Is this good?

I think coffee's a bad idea.. Its going to leave you in the friends though. Why dont you cancel and tell her your busy at that time, and get her out for a drink at night... There you can escalate better, lead her around, flirt with her, tease her, challenge her.. etc.. and then walk her past an off license, ask her what she likes red or white.. get the wine, go your place.. get it on...

Thanks for the advice.

In the end I send her a text saying "coffee is boring, lets go for a drink tonight", to which she agreed.

I started of just chatting to her, then started teasing her a bit and started touching a bit, holding hands when we were talking and putting my arm round her. Ended up going back to hers!

The great thing was, I started talking about my girlfriend and how I split up with her because I'm too young and don't want a relationship, and she felt the same! She basically just wants a fuck buddy too!

I'm pretty chuffed. This was my first number close for day game (and ever) and I ended up sleeping with her within 5 days of meeting, and she is really hot (HB8.5-9)!

Brilliant result... Love how you set the 'I dont want a GF frame' I think it allows the girl to chill out and forget all the I must interview this guy to death, to be sure he's the one and all that shit.. and allows you both to have some 'fun' haha

I do this in clubs, I will approach, and suggest that I know them from Uni.. then I'll challenge her.. if she validates herself then I will say 'I'm not the kind of guy who dates, I think its boring, your not you and I'm not me.. I prefer to live in the moment, have a good time.. How about you? Normally they say yes.. and then I'll isolate, 'come on lets get a drink?'

Just out of interest was the girl English? I've not done too much day game where I live in Manchester. In London I've had success with Latvian, Lithuanian, Italian girls but I've not tried with English. I have read a few bad posts about English girls being quite suspicious and negative with direct openers in the street etc.. Just interested in your take on this? and how you opened in this case?

Cheers

Lee

I like the "I like to live in the moment and have a good time". In other words "if your not up for having fun with me then I'll find you boring"

She was english (indian origin), worked in a bookshop. I simply went up to her and said I want help finding a book because I've only read 10 books in my life and I don't know where to start. (I quite like being honest, I think it shows confidence). And then started talking about how I want a book that really makes me think and is written really well with good use of metaphors etc. After talking about various books for a bit I just started asking her about uni and other things.

Then when texting her I reaslised wasn't teasing enough, I was just occasionally being kind of funny or not even funny at all just talking and she started giving short replies (losing attraction or getting bored?). So I teased her about going into waterstones and this geeky indian girl would leave me alone, and she replied with a massive IOI saying how this handsome guy was talking to her at work the other day. And then I carried on teasing her in various ways on the date