Hello PUA peeps,

I have a case of the gone cold and wondering if it could be salvaged.

The backstory:

This girl I have met in my rec league and I hit it off really well. I got to the point of asking her out and she agreed but I had to cancel due to work related issues. I suggested next week and we agreed on tuesday. Monday rolls around and she tells me she is leaving town tuesday and would like to meet up tonight (monday), to which I agree. I take her to a happy hour and then to get a bite to eat followed by walking around the city talking and flirting. The whole date lasted about 5 hours. When we depart I give her a kiss good night and we both agreed to the idea of seeing each other again after thanksgiving was over. Later that night i get a text saying she had a really good time.

Heres where it goes awry.

During thanksgiving she was out of town for 5 days where we did not make much communication other than me texting her happy thanksgiving.

On monday I played solid day 2 text game, with a funny opener to which she responded. I got her to agree to hanging out friday for an event and told her id give her the details tomorrow. I give her a call tuesday and tell her that the event was cancelled but if she would be open to doing something else to which she agreed. I told her id think of something and let her know. I text her on thursday with a funny opener and tell her where we will be going friday. She doesnt respond.

Friday comes and in the morning I get notice i will be headed on travel for work in the weekend. I text her that I wont be able to chill and something came up for work.. She texts me back that she was going to say the same thing that someone called out so she has to stay late. I responded that I was starting to think we werent meant to hang out on fridays and she didnt respond.

So sunday comes and its our rec league day. Our league usually heads to the bar afterwards so while at the bar she did not even say hello. I bumped into her and her friend and said hello and they were both very standoffish. So I told her I was going to hang with my teammates and didnt speak the rest of the night to her. I still had a good night at the bar being social and hanging out. A couple of girls were over me and I can see her looking over at me occasionally during the night.

Sorry for the long post but I am really confused as to what happened. Can this be salvaged? Thanks for reading.

Papa

She was probably shit testing you. Did you know the girl she was with at the bar? if you didnt, you could have said something along the lines of "ya know its rude not to introduce me to your friend". If you did know the girl, maybe talking to her then your target would have been more beneficial. Hell its even possible she was standoffish because she likes you and feels like you keep breaking plans with her and dont wanna see her(means she might be a little needy). Best thing I can think of to do, is start texting her and keeping texts short, funny, interesting, and eventually to meetup again. Kinda at the point where I am right now, I think maybe getting a transition from texting to phone then to back in person will be best for your and my situation overall, but I would love it if another guy would go over this and see if im right and this is good advice.

Your link exchange is very good. Thank you!

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Dubli

Thanks for the reply. Yeah we are all on the same rec league so I knew her friend. She was standoffish as well. Also I do not think it has to do with breaking plans since she already knows the work I do and that I am on call pretty much 24/7.

The thing I was just going to do is ignore till about the end of the week and pretty much do what you suggested and text her something short and funny and see if I can build it back up. I usually screw it up here though; if anyone has any proper techniques lay em on me.

Ok, best advice that im currently giving myself, cuz im stuck in a text zone with a girl that I was having success with....."if you keep doing the same things, you will get the same results"-Mystery

So lately I have really spiced my texting up and just used soooooo many DLV's on facebook that I used it as a routine and an inside joke with my target, which tonight gave me a much better texting success. But my overall plan is to transition from texting, to phone calls, which will build comfort fairly quick, and then im gonna transition to another meetup and actually use game. Because I messed up and didnt use any rountines, kino, or lines for date 2. Which I thought would end all my hopes, but non-needy persistence is gonna pay off!!

It is really true, they say that a pick up-artist hits walls, and we do, but dont forget every wall you learn to climb gives you a giant takeoff and one whole piece left of the game mastered. Best of luck to you in climbing the walls! Next phase for us is to use our wit and create some cool "game" of our own style! Be creative and fun, not looking for a reward and you will be fine! Least its what im telling myself!

I sent her a text after a week hiatus. If she responds great if not whatevs.