So there's this girl I want to be with...she threw a party at her house last night, and I was there. She was flirting with a guy close to the end of the night, and kept looking at me (I was giving her a pretty mad look once in a while when I'd notice her looking at me). At this point, it was just my friends, her, her roommates, and the kid. Eventually he noticed that I was getting pissed, so he left... I was pretty messed up since I drank and smoked, so I asked her if she likes the kid. She said "No, I don't even know him."

For some strange reason, I felt like it would be a good idea for me to tell her that I'm attracted to her, and we had a long talk, in private...she kept saying she was confused, and wanted time to think about it. In the end, I stayed over and slept with her in her bed, but we didn't do anything sexual.

So my question is, is she not into me and just saying that she's "confused" to let me down easy? Or is she actually confused...she said she didn't want to get cheated on (I'm in a frat, and the brothers have a pretty bad rep of cheating on girlfriends, etc). Regardless of what she said, she wanted me to be with her last night, and she wouldn't let me leave...soo I'm pretty fucking confused. What should I do next?

F-close. That should clarify any confusion she is having.

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She's a virgin and has only kissed one other guy besides me.

she's not into you and is either A: letting you down gently, or B: has no interest in you sexually but wants a lap dog to follow her round and give her validation. LEave her well alone and move on mate.

you should've escalated sexually and f-close.

Trust movement not words. That's where the truth is.

if she allowed you to stay in bed with her then that means it was on. ignore what
she was saying about being 'confused'. that was just token resistance.

likewise if a girl says she really likes you, but you cant get anywhere with her.
then its a lie. she doesnt.

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dude your first mistake is calling your fraternity a "frat"

Haha I totally agree! Respect your organization bro, I dont call my fraternity a frat.....Thats fucking hollywood