I was out saturday and met a girl who works in the same building. I was pretty drunk and was not sure if what I was seeing was what I wanted or just the alcohol. Any way did not attempt to close because of this. find out she is good looking though facebook mutual friend. Been messaging her on FB and doing well.

i had been joking how being FB friends is KINDA a big deal (it isnt) and how she should do a,b,c for me first.
I asked for her number (without directly asking), got the response: not sure I can do that seeing how we are not FB friends.
I said I would have to think about since it's a big deal (didn't want to fall into her games (friend me and maybe you'll get ny number))

ShE: guess youll have to find another way to get my number so you can punish me
me: im pretty resourceful.

was talking to her friend today and trying to be clever and mess around with her phone, but since they are inseperable her friend new EXACTLY what I was up to.

How do I get this number without friending her. OR if I do friend her, how could I write it off as I was't just jumping through hoops?

First of all, any chick who says anything about me "punishing" her, I'm gonna take that as an IOI and do anything I can to crush her guts as soon as possible. That being said, just get her number and smash, bro.

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She seems interested (i guess?) but this is some seriously "gamey" stuff on her part. What a hassle.

I think one thing you can learn from this was your mentality going into it. You started off super gamey and teasing and playful but were never direct. That will cause an issue in getting girls like this to play back the same way and make it harder for you. That's why the direct route is always the best.

I would just drop all the bullshit and say:

"Listen though for real, I think you're a cool girl and we should definitely hang out some time. I'm doing blah blah blah this week, you should totally join me "

If she continues to play games at this point then she's just having a good time and is not truly interested.

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she was asking about if she misbehaved again and I said something like: it would be easier to to set up some kind of punishment if I had your number.
then she asked if was asking for her number and I said yes.

that's when she laid the whole we're not FB friends on me(add me so I can view your profile hint hint)

After my failed attempt to cleverly get it from her friends phone today, could I still add her and turn it around on her?

Add her. Then message her again for her phone number. Like puaninja said, she wants to be crushed.

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I added her last night and she accepted instantly.
Then I sent this message: Since you are going to be stalking me even more now,you should give me your number so I can get to know you a little better

This morning she replies: And why would you want to do that?

Is this a case her trying to see how long she can keep a guy strung along, or would this be the time to be straight forward. I figured she would have given me her number when I asked the first time, if she were truly interested.

I'm going out of town tomorrow as well, IF i decide to message her again I guess it will be in a few days

This girl is stringing you along. It's funny at this point. I would have gone more direct, instead you kept playing games with her. Should have asked for her number and told her you want to take her out somewhere. No more teasing and games, instead just tell her "because I think you're adorable. Let's grab a drink/dinner/go to xyz next week"

If you send her that and she continues to play games then this girl is not worth it and you know for next time not to be so "gamey" etc.

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She's a gamer, follow Trippadvice advice.

If she continues to game she's only stringing you along, drop it and move. No time for that shit.

You can try to destroy her frame. Send her some curious message like "I can't even believe what just happened to me. I'm totally flipping out right now." Then if she writes back like "What's going on?!?" Just respond vaguely and tell her it's too hard to even explain. Basically your are trying to get her to ask if she can call you to talk about it over the phone. The key is to make it seem very serious and dire, and let her curiosity fester. That way it totally disrupts the playful hard-to-get frame she is running on you and it makes her chase you.

Then when it comes time to tell her what's going on, just make up some story that's impossible for her to ever verify if it's true or not. Make up some crazy family drama or something. And since you don't want to be stuck having to own this lie for ever and ever, just tell her that you don't want to talk about it anymore and you need her to be there to cheer you up.

How's that for frame changer?

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Try this. See what happens. Seriously, this could work.

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i followed Trip's advice and sent a message on thursday night. I got back from my trip on monday and the 2 messages from thursday night were: "I don't date" and then her number.
Yesterday I sent one of my usual first texts. "I've got some great news, you should save this number as (something she would remember you by)"

She was still trying to be slightly gamey afterwards, to wich I just ignored (so far the only text i sent was the one above) Instead of warming up with text (as i normally would), I was just going to give her a call tonight and set something up.

opinions?

Any anti flake measures? since she seems like she would be