long story short.. I met a girl,HB8, we talked on the phone for a week. Went out on Sat and had a great time. Kissed last hour at bar, nothing more...kiss close the night. on Sun she texts me to tell me she had a great time. i text back and say "me too, lets do it again". She texts back "definitely". I call her Monday and we talk for 30 min, I ask her if she wants to hang again this weekend...she says yes...also ask her if she would want to come over and see superbad (she hasn't seen it yet)She says she can't. I try to call her wed and get no answer, and leave a message. I get no callback. this? How should I proceed!?

Here are my thoughts on the gameplan: wait to see if she calls, if there is no call by saturday, I'll text her this: Hey! PLaying hard to get? Nice! Talk to me...

Hi Ish, which message did you leave? That could be important.

Don't use the "Playing hard to get" line - it comes off wrong and leaves you looking needy - Especially the "talk to me" part - DON'T DO IT.

Next time, don't suggest that she goes over your place to watch a movie - it's code for "I want sex." You might have showed too much interest, which is why she might me avoiding you.

The correct way of doing it is be to already be out with her at the bar (just as she agreed) and then to "drop by your place" because you forgot something or want to show her something really kool and invite her up. That way she doesn't feel responsible if anything happens - female programming.

The best thing to do: Don't contact her - wait until she calls you.

The absolute worst thing to do is to bombard her with calls and messages.

If she doesn't call by noon on Saturday, send her a text saying this:

"Hey, i gotta cancel our plans tonight, my friend [Girl's name] is coming in from Amsterdam at 8 and I promised I'd pick her up."

BIG DHV

Give her the gift of missing you.

The message I left on Wed was, "Hey it's Ish. Call me when you get a chance. I'll talk to you later"

Thanks for the help guys. This one has got me confussed b/c she was the one trying hard on me when we went out Sat. When we played pool she made me bet her that if she won, I had to kiss her. My reply" If I win, you buy me a shot" I won the game, kissed her. Then said, "you still owe me a shot"

Any ideas on the best possible text message to send her sat?

i thought PM88ENG gave you a good advice...

reading your last post, it seems that you chose not to listen to him...

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I picked up on something........ur on the 2nd date and ur tryin to hook up with her again.....she noticed it when you said Lets watch superbad at my house....she agreed to hang out with you on a 2nd date but then said she can't when you said lets watch superbad at my hosue....put urself in her shoes......if a guy that u made out with at a bar is invitin u to watch a movie at his house at night.........things are going to happen....u need to be sly with it...you should have played the 2nd date as a lets go out.....afternoonish do something really fun, run your game and then at the end of the night bring up hey u want to watch superbad back at my house..........if the 2nd date went off great and u your gamed it right she will feel more comfort with you and will watch a movie at ur house. As for her not gettin back to you......PM88ENG line sounds good

PM88ENG nailed it. But I'll re-emphasize it, in case you missed it.

The similar scenario happened with my mate...

[A facebook incident]
A Girl checks my mate out and PM's him. He reciprocates and they organize to go on a date.

So he's thinking, "She's seen my pic so obviously I'm in there." Who wouldn't right?

Basically, he told me he tried all the bullshit on the first date, he let her know that he was very interested.

What happened? She told him it wasn't going to go anywhere the next day.

An AFC would think, "OK logically she's the one who made the first move. Maybe I need to keep showing her I'm interested?"

You must not be an AFC.

If you ain't heard of cat-string theory I'll try and paraphrase it for you.

"What happens when you dangle a ball of yarn just in front of a cat? It goes mad trying to chase it, especially if you pull it out of the way just when it is about to reach it. But what happens when you drop the ball into its lap? It plays with it for about 5 seconds and then loses interest."

If she doesn't call you, give it up... End of.