Right, Basically I've been texting this girl for the last two weeks. (made previous threads so you might know the story). I'd say she's interested. Her friends came up to me in the club and told me. so that says it all really.

I chatted with her and when she left asker her for her number. Texted throughout the week asked her to hang out but she said she was busy (I believe genuine, we're both in the final year of Uni). Then last weekend I was out and she text to ask if I was at the same club as her. I was so we met up and ended up kissing.

The next day I text and asked to hang out again. She said yes this time and we're on for next week.

I'm cool with conversations etc but I don't really know how to act around her though seeing as we kissed. Is it important that we kiss again at some point during this 'date'? I don't want to be taking steps backwards so to speak. I guess I should use a fair bit of Kino.

Any other advice? Much appreciated. thanks

2nd day i usually bring her to something casual, like a starbucks/ any other coffee thing and after she's comfortbale with you you can ask her to come home with you. This usually works for me.

Just stay relaxed, the fact that she kissed you and wants a 2nd day means she's already into you.

Dude she kissed you...all you have to do now is kiss more....talk nonsense ...and then just give her plausible deniability to come home.

thanks guys for the replies!

I invited her to this really cool chilled bar I know. She was keen.

Whats the deal on buying drinks though? Should it be I'll get this round, you can get the next or what? I don't want to have to get up and go to the bar when I want a new drink and not offer to get her one. Seems odd. Yet I don't want to be some complete AFC trying to pay for her everything. I'm not in to all that

Sorry to bump this, going out on friday.

bit of an update. She text me the other night when she was drunk saying should we go to the cinema instead of the bar. What the fuck

I told her no its too anti social blah blah blah. I think she was nervous (she even said she was later on in texts and labelled it herself as a date) I reasured her that it'll be totally chill, no pressure and not to label it as I weren't etc. She seems okay about it all now.

The question still remains though. What do I do about buying drinks? It's a first date so should I just get my own? Take it in turns between us to buy rounds?

Whats the best way to play it?

thanks

First of all I just wanna say about her idea of a movie date, not all that bad an idea, read up on Chief's sticky about movie dates (top of this section) a lot of good points in there which I used on a date last week (and will be again on friday ).

With regards to buying drinks you can go a few different ways with this, you can either come out and say "I'll get the first round, you get the next one", you can turn it into a game "Let's play rock paper scissors, losers buys the first round!", or you can do a little test to see what kind of girl she is, don't mention anything (for the first round) just ask her what drink she wants, get it for her, eventually after the two of you have finished your first drink, she's gonna want another, here don't do anything for like 20-30minutes and just see if she actually gets up and offers to buy you one. I take that scenario as a massive IOI, as now she isn't just investing time in you, but money aswell. You may get a bit thirsty during this time, here's another good reason to have chewing gum handy, it can moisten your mouth a bit when you haven't got a drink there as well as make your breath fresh for kissing (no-one likes bad breath).

Personally I normally take the third option and if it doesn't play out if she says "lets get another drink" or whatever I take that as a cue that she wants me to buy her one (otherwise she'd just go get herself one right?). I'll just fall back on one of the other two with a slight change of phrase like "Hey I got the first round, it's your turn" or a classic bit of Tommy Cooper (for those who aren't from UK he's a legendary comedian) where you say "What are you having?" she'll say what she wants, then you say "Great, I'll have the same thanks" it's a nice cocky/funny one.

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Thanks for the advice man. Will be sure to read that sticky!

She flaked on me anyway so i binned her off. Might have been genuine but I think she was just nervous. I can't be bothered with her. Not worth the effort.

Asked me if I wanted to reschedule but told her I was too busy for the next month. She seemed really gutted trying to reschedule for the Saturday

Told her no anyway (gonna meet someone else now instead).

Thanks for all the advice though everyone

This was a lesson for you not to think so much You burned brain cells for the date and she flaked.
Why not just be chill and let things go spontaneous?