So I really hit it off with this stunning girl at a classy party. She was one of the most beautiful girls I have seen in quite some time.

We talked several times during the evening, and we had surprisingly a lot of things in common. She even ditched her girl friends for about 1 hour to just sit and chat with me in a couch in front of a fire place sharing a glass of wine. This is where I number closed her.

Two days later I send her this text:

"Do you want to join me at X for some wine tasting either tuesday or thursday next week?"

That text was sent in the afternoon.

She replied several hours later, in the evening: "I would love to! Thursday works best for me "

I replied the same evening with this: "Awesome:) Let us meet up at X around 19:00 and walk together to the wine tasting place?"


Now here is the deal. She has not responded to that text, and a couple of days have passed. I know she has a lot going on in her life. However I'm guessing she has not responded yet since it's like a week until the date. Does this seem plausable? Shuld I not have suggested the time to meet up so long before the date? (9 days)

Furthermore I have started thinking how I should confirm the time for us to meet up without beeing pushy/needy. This is offcourse just in case she doesn't respond to my last text.

I know she is a Mad Men fan, and that I work as a marketing director. I was contemplating saying something like this 1-2 days before the date: "Mad Men or casual style?" (It will only be me and her on the wine tasting + my friend who will be the "expert")


Or maybe keep it simple and ask again if 19:00 is a good time for her to meet?

Simply say "I've been thinking about Thursday and how classy its going to be. We are some classy cats." or "I hope that vineyards can turn it up a notch" "I'm going to be sipping wine like a fucking rockstar." Say something funny and laidback not all proper and shit.

First of all, thank you so much for your reply.

So you don't think "Mad Men or casual?" is a little funny? I need to put emphasis on the fact that she loves Mad Men.


And how long before the date should I confirm the date/time ?

I would confirm the night before or the morning of. Don't check too far in advance as last minute things can come up. But don't wait an hour before the date and send her a text as she could have, God forbid, forgotten or lost interest.

If you really want to make a Mad Men reference I'd day something like "When it comes to rocking a suit I put John Hamm to shame." Or "I have the perfect suit that would even put John Hamm to shame...but I'm not sure you're ready to see it."

Good luck man!

Hope that helps!

Thanks Vinicius.

I got a reply from her, and everything looks like smooth sailing from here. I'll confirm the evening before.

I usually don't get nervous on dates, but this is by far the most beutifull HB I have ever went on a date with! Good times [/quote]

Seems like a good catch for you.
Hope everything goes well!

Thank you!

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Not a problem! Glad my advice helped you out.

Be sure to put a follow-up report as to how the night goes. Im looking forward to hearing how it all works out for you.

Not a problem! Glad my advice helped you out.

Be sure to put a follow-up report as to how the night goes. Im looking forward to hearing how it all works out for you.[/quote]

Will do!

Update: I have been fooling around with my ex-girlfriend the last month. Just called her and told her whatever we have going on now, it's over.

I did it so our casual relationship wouldn't somehow sabotage the chance I have with this gorgeous new girl.

That's a great idea man. This shows you believe in yourself. Although, some ppl I'm sure would say keep her as a back-up just in case things don't work out with your target but, this is only setting yourself up for failure. The reason being because if you keep a back-up it means you're not completely convinced and confident you will be successful with the girl you have a stronger interest for. Clearly, this is not the case with you.

Random piece of advice. When you're still in the getting-to-know and early stages of dating, try not to focus on the fact of how gorgeous and beautiful your target is. Be aware of it, just don let it be at the centre of your mind. A lot of us guys who are still considered new into the game work ourselves up about how attractive a target is, which can make us nervous, act unnaturally and lead us to failure.

Thanks for the kind words! My back up is every beautiful girl in this city

And thanks for the advice, keep them coming, haha

She flaked

I like a challenge. Alltough the excuse seemed legit, and she said "raincheck!".

I'm having a business meeting in a couple of days, I plan on asking her to join me for a coffee after the meeting.


Anyhow, got my self a nother date today. She has a boyfriend but I figgured it is better than nothing

Eish! I always have doubts when setting up a date (especially a day 2) so far in advance. The best thing to do is have something within the first 3 days or so after your first ecounter because after this time she will start to lose interest, and may cancel. Unless you guys really hit it off and she genuinely couldn't make it.

It doesn't have to be anything big even meeting for an hour or stopping by her work (if she works in a public place like a store or restaurant) and pretending it's a coincidence. NEVER stop-by her job if she works at a hospital or office etc. so soon after meeting her as it looks desperate, creepy and stalkerish. Some guys will say the same that about restaurant and store too but this I leave up to you.

Seeing her within three days isn't always possible, but "If she wants you bad enough, she'll make time for you." -Unknown

Great job setting up another plan. Playing hard-to-get and being cocky funny can work in your favour when setting up a back-up time, so keep that in mind.

She has 2 jobs and studying law. I really think she is telling the truth based on that alone.

I will try to set up a date next week!