Hello, everyone. I'm new here. If this landed in the wrong part of the forum, please, move it. I tried to look for a general "what should I do when..", but this seemed most appropriate by description.

Anyway. I'm 26, went on a date with an 18 year old. Had fun, so did she. Later on she sms'ed me with something like "thanks for the company. you said you wanted to know me better so here's my new blog ". I replied with something like "cool blabla".

Next day I asked her with sms to join me for lunch, she couldn't because she was spending the day with her parents (I know, ha ha @ me). But here's the thing: She responded something like "I can't today, going out with parents for the day. I have a busy next week but I'm sure I could squeeze you in somehow."

Squeeze me in somehow? Wtf? It sounds like she's trying to pull some game of her own Reading that I suddenly felt like the woman in this thing. I replied something very general about "yeah, let's see next week, we'll figure it out when it's closer". Tried to keep it like it wasn't a big deal for me.

Soo.. What the crap should I do next without coming off pushy and wimpy?

You already came off as Beta-as-fuck imo.

Chances are she's blowing you off because of the date. Now this all depends on what kind of girl she is and how "sexual" the date was. But if she's like most girls out there, chances are you ain't being SEXUAL enough.


Some things you gotta get through your head now:

Do you wanna bang this girl?
>if yes, then you need to be more sexual bro
>of no, then just keep things friendly and that's it

Do you want a fuck-buddy or a Relationship?
>if the latter then its alright to take it a bit slower and get to know her, but since she's 18, be prepared for failure.

I would have said, "don't worry about it, I'll give you a buzz next time I want company for lunch."

And left it at that. Go cold for about 3 weeks, maybe meet another girlie and have fun with her. Then go back to this one, and give her another shot. If she blows me off again, it may be game over, depends on how generous I feel... If I'm in a good mood, I may try warming up to her emotionally through SMS and Facebook (Facebook is great here bro), and then giving it another shot, but after strike 3 she's outta there buddy.

I've put up way too much with flaky bitches to give a fuck about them.


You have to look at things this way.

"I'm a goddamned Demi-God, she's lucky a guy like me would even talk to her, if she wants to accept the hot dicking I'm willing to give her, then she is privileged, but if not, she can fuck off and get herself some loser-ass boyfriend whom she can leech off of.

Btw, I don't do relationships, and personally I recommend you don't either. Especially with teenagers.

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Cheers for the reply, ManlySpirit. Pretty much how I figured it, been giving off a too sissy vibe. When we last saw she actually complimented me multiple times on sexy muscles and eyecandiness and such. Afraid I already tried a salvage operation, smsing if she wants a rerun of trying to hit the nightclubs. Last time we just drank a bottle of sparkling wine and went to park talking stuff.

Smarter for the experience, no matter how it turns out. But shit anyway

Going to the park and talking is a great date, just... How much did you touch her? Did you even kiss her?

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Afraid not. In retrospect, there were plenty of moments when it would have worked.

I suppose that's why most of the times I've been successful with women I've been more than a little drunk. Removed my inhibitions. A while back I at least had some game. Now it feels like I'm utter shit at everything I try. I have had sex with three different girls in the past month, but I count them as luck and not as me actually doing or trying to do anything.

Well, she asked me for coffee on thursday. In my experience coffee is the crappiest thing to do with a girl. No innuendo ment, but it feels like visiting your grandmother.

Any further advice on how to act? Other than trying to put in a more sexual vibe. Or more concrete tips for that?

As for if I want to bone her, yes. If I want a relationship? Hell if I know. I try my best not to think that far ahead.

That was weird. She texted me earlier this week. if I wanted to go for coffee today. I said sure and suggested time and place, asked if they were ok for her. She didn't respond anything. Obviously I didn't go there to see if she shows up because she couldn't even be arsed to answer yes/no. If people don't accept an offer of meeting up, I'm not going to go there just in case like a lonely puppy dog

Today she called and apologised for not answering the sms and sounded sort of sheepish. It was like seven minutes after the meeting time I had suggested, so I'm assuming she had shown up and wondered why I wasn't there.

So, uh.. I'm really at a loss here. Give it four days and ask if she wants to try again?


PS. Unrelated: What is it with women and not knowing how to use a phone anyway? 90 % of them tuck it so deep in a bag that they can't even hear when it rings, rendering it practically pointless to even carry it around with her. The 10 % that actually locate their phone either use it way too much or way too little. Or maybe it's just me.

True; Unless you have built proper comfort and attraction THEN I guarantee they have a death grip on it like it's a winning Mega Millions Jackpot ticket!

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