I am 18 yrs old, senior in hs. I have the confidence to pull girls. I dated the most beautiful girl in the school, not a lie at all, and have numerous girls after me now. I have built myself into a really nice young man, and can DHV from honestly just being myself. From telling girls who I am, who I want to be, and what I've done with my life, and what I'm doing with my life in the future. I can act myself and run natural game and build attraction. Run mid game decent, rapport building and kino. However my insecurities deal with closing and its whats stopping me from closing with girls.

These are my problems.

-I have a....smaller size penis. My circumference is absolutely right on par, but my length is....eh. I'm not small, but im below average. I looked at a lifestyle condoms survey conducted by doctors on 400 male volunteers and the average was anywhere from 5.25-6.5, while I'm sitting at anywhere from 4.25-5 depending on how hard I am/how you measure it. This is probably the biggest insecurity I have about hooking up with girls. I feel like I'm limited to only a few positions and that they will compare me.

- My ex was the only girl I've ever made out with, and she sucked. She just let me kiss and bite her lower lip while she didn't really even kiss me "back". Now that I'm single I've hooked up with 2-3 girls and have noticed how absolutely horrible I am at kissing. I can kiss, but when a girl start kissing "back" I don't know how to "receive" it or make it "blend" in with my kisses that I'm giving. I've just feels sloppy and unorganized, not "fluid" motions. Does that make any sense?

-I have only had sex about 15 times (with my ex) and I'm insecure that I am not good at it at all.
-I cum pretty quickly. Is it because I'm new to sex and still haven gotten "use" to the feeling? Like within 30 seconds-5 minutes and I'm done.My friend had the same problem. He said to just stop when you're about to cum, and keep doing it every time. After 5-10 minutes, you'll be able to hold back easily and he said he went for an hour! Do you think that will work? Or will it go away the more I have sex and get used to it?

So I am a bad kisser, who cums quick, and has a small penis. It has made me become VERY fearful of closing with girls despite my semi-decent "game".

Is this boring or am I really so SOL that people just dont wanna break the bad news to me? :'( baha

I'm gonna answer your points one by one, these are all very simple problems that are easy to fix. If you're insecure about your size, work on using your hands/mouth better. Although the size you are is big enough anyway dude, the G-spot is not that far in and it's just a classic case of "It's not the size that matters, but how you use it". 'Smaller' does not equate to 'too small' just don't worry about it.
My gf actually comments regularly about how good a kisser I am. The trick I use is to let them lead the kissing, dictate the pace etc, then if you want to be a bit more assertive just exert more pressure into it, pull them tight to you but let them continue dictating the pace and just match them blow for blow. If they aren't using much tongue, don't try forcing yours down there, if they are using a lot, just match them for it. Keep things simple.
For this just get out of your head, I used to have this same insecurity but the key is (in my opinion) to open up the lines of communication and listen to what she's saying, if she says harder then you do it harder, if you are say fingering her and not getting much of a physical reaction, chances are what you're doing isn't working so change it up, if when you change it she lets loose a little moan or squeezes your hand if only for a second, continue doing what you've changed to for a little bit.
Biggest thing though is just get out of your head, don't think about it so much while you are doing it, just let things flow naturally but just keep 1 eye/ear open to anything you may need to change up.
Take your friends advice.

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Ya i actually have been offered two "friends with benefits" in the past month and I am taking one of them. I think itll def help me with all of these considering this girl kinda seems open minded and not superficial about it. I warned her I am bad and she said it doesn't matter. Plus I've actually become more confident in my size. My girth is there and im not SUPER small so I think i shouldnt be that bad off. Guess we'll see

She is probably using me as a rebound but IDGAF hahaha

Ok...

I understand how you feel... im taller (6 foot 5) and very average in size ... dont let that discourage anything. A girl honest doesnt care about how big it is... any dick will do for her... she just needs a man to protect her and show he has a lot of VALUE. (tribal leader). You have everything going for you so you say so just role w it...

my biggest suggest is to stop FEARING. If you fear you will lose. eveytime and itll be a disaster. u just have to go in w the alpha attitute and bang bitches.... she will love that more then anything else.

gl

duke

Haha, this post is hysterical.

First off why do you have a problem closing when you have girls "after" you? Doesn't make sense.

Secondly don't worry about your small penis. Most girls don't really care about size, it's more about the experience for them. They get hard ons upstairs.

If girls cared about penis size, then the much taller girls I date wouldn't talk to me any more after having sex with me. I think it's because they just want to have sex with me for who I am, not how big my penis size is. Girls are more interested in the idea of having SOMEONE they LIKE inside of them rather than having a large penis inside of them.

As for your erectional dysfunction, just take her time when having sex. Take pauses and use the time to make love to her body, kiss her on the neck, suck her boobies, etc etc. Then start fucking her again. Pause. Fuck. Pause. Fuck.

In other words use both heads lol