Hey all! I haven't been dating for a while, bu tI went out on Friday and met this chick who was totally into me. I mean, she walked by me and gave me the "you're the hottest guy in the bar" kind of stare. lol So I of course took my chance and she hung out with my friends and me (mostly her and I alone) all night long. At several times during the night, she stared at me like she wanted me to kiss her and I didn't go for it. At the end of the night, she tells me she is gonna leave, and she gives me the boring handshake (I told myself, I am not making this mistake twice, haha) and I asked her if I could kiss her. AFC, I know, but my game was a bit shaky from being out of the game for a bit!!
She said, "Go for it!!!" She gave me her number (her idea) and said we should go out sometime.


Ok, so I texted her the following evening:

Me: Hey M. How is your Saturday treating you? I had a really nice time talking with you last night.
Her: My Saturday is fine, I worked this morning and earned some decent money. How about yours?
Me: Oh, mine is going fine, just did my taxes, so I am glad that that is done. ha ha! Did you like bar x?
Her: Oh yes, that's what's going on. Did you get any money back? The bar was pretty cool, for sho.
Me: Oh definitely!!! I am in the process of applying for ----, too, so I am busy busy.
yadda yadda yadda (my text was kinda long).


And no response!! lol Should I just leave it alone and assume she is not that into me? I was gonna send a text in mid week and ask her out! SHe did tell me she had problems with an ex!!! SHe was really cute!! But artsie as heck and very young (only 21). lol But she was more mature.

So do I do a freeze out (lol, I hate this kinda shit) and then ask her out via text in a few days? Any advice?

Thanks All! Cheers!!!

At the risk of sounding like a chest-thumping douche, quit being a pussy. Kiss her when the moment seems right, for Chirst's sake don't ASK to do it, and for the love of all that's holy and decent in the world, talk about something more interesting than your taxes (I mean, really? Taxes?) when you text her for the first time.

Better yet, take her home the night you meet her and leave all this awkward crap for the birds.

Your boy,
870

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haha very funny!!! I thought about sending her another text on Wed asking her out!!
LOL My game was actually really good all evening (besides a few slip ups).

How should I go about this? ANy advice?

Dude there is nothing funny about the advice 870 has given you. Take the bull by the horns, be the man, lead her, I physically cringed when I read "I asked her if I could kiss her".

Also be honest with yourself about what how you did/how you're doing because you say in your first post "my game was a bit shaky from being out of the game for a bit" then your next post says "My game was actually really good all evening", well which is it?

As 870 said though, asking to kiss her was bad but talking about your taxes? I'd be surprised to hear of any man in history to have gotten laid by talking about his taxes. She was into you enough to let you kiss after you made the mistake of asking for it, she was into you enough to then give you her number, and was into enough to actually talk about taxes with you. Don't give up on this one just yet but for the love of god read up on a bit of text-game, get the fire burning, get a day 2 and get your leg over! If you ask for a date right now I'd be surprised if you got it after the poor initial texting, get a bit of spark back then go for the day2.

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Well, firstly, thanks for your response. I decided to take a break from dating other chicks and just went out with my ex for a while, which was not such a great idea. So my mindset of talking to new girls and going after numbers was placed on the back burner for a while. So when I said my game was shaky, yes, it obviously was, in the sense that I asked to kiss her (which may not always be a bad thing, but in this case, I had several IOIs to kiss her without asking all evening). She was a bit of the artsy type and I took off her fashion hat, and teased her about it, and she looked at me with those eyes (you know, the look a girl gives you when she likes you). But nonetheless, my game was still alright; I talked to, isolated, and kissed, and got a girls number without asking her for it. And in regards to the taxes comment, yes, that was not a great move.

I still feel that if she was into me, she would have responded to my last text. Right?

Secondly, I am not gonna gonna obsess over one girl; I just thought I'd ask for how to handle this situation. My day one game is alright, but closing is where I struggle (getting a second date with number closed victims lol).

Thirdly, I thought about sending her something in the lines of, "Hey Name, hope your week is going excellent! I would love to hang out this weekend if you're free?

I know it seems a bit overeager, but if she is into me at this stage, she'll accept, right? Or any other recommendations?

Thanks and cheers,

D

Wrong. At this point, she probably thinks you aren't really that into her, since you were barely able to kiss her and wanted to talk about ridiculous nonsense when you text her as opposed to a topic with any sort of emotional or carnal value.

I'm not telling you to give up, but it's important to learn these lessons now so that the next time an opportunity like this one presents itself you will be able to take advantage of it.

Your boy,
870

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Update:

Me: hey name! Hope your week is going excellent. I would love to hang out this weekend if you're free?

Her: it's x (remember)? I am busy Saturday evening but might be free on Friday!!!

Me: •changes name from x to y• ha ha I'll shoot u a text tomorrow.

Her: sounds good!


Ok so when we first met, she gave me a hundred nicknames and I teased her about it. Ha ha

Guys, I need advice on how to close!!! We already spent 3 hrs together. I need lots of advice!! From beginning to end. This girl is very cute, no doubt in my mind that she has lots of guys asking her out. Plus she is on the rebound!!!!

Kino change venue, tease, smile, (I like to buy a drink or two cause I don't like coming across as a cheap skate).... Lol any other pears of wisdom? What do I do if we get quiet?

Cheers mates !!!

Bump!!! I have personality, but I would just like some advice (should she agree to meet me tomorrow).

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